I find it so hot thinking about my husband watching porn and jerking off. I know he watches porn but he makes it weird like I’m mad about it. I’m the kind of gal who wants all the dick pics and to sext while at work. How do I bring this up to him? I want us both to be casual about masterbation.

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  1. Option 1. Talk to him about it. Option 2. Have him catch you jerking off to porn at high volume even better if it’s on the TV maybe in the living room

  5. “ I get so wet/hot thinking about you jerking off, can I watch you pleasure yourself before work/bed?”

    “I want to watch some (favorite category) porn with you tonight. Can you help me find a good video?”

    Mutual masturbation is a fun and intimate way to initiate and set the mood.

  6. If he is cagey about you trying to talk about it, it’s probably pretty vulnerable for him and that is him getting defensive. If he was raised to believe it was wrong, and hears his own inner self-hatred instead of what you are actually saying, it could take some time to get him to hear you.

  8. I have straight up told my bf I like to watch him. When I’m licking his balls and he starts jerking, I stop and watch. When he pulls out to cum on me, I tell him how hot it is to watch him touch himself.

    Girl, tell him!

  10. masturbate together instead of having sex. he can watch you and you can watch him. can even make it a game. loser has to clean the other one up, etc

    i once had a partner where we were in 69 position but we weren’t allowed to touch each other. my partner masturbated just inches from my face and did the same.

  11. If you don’t want to say it directly you can introduce it, for example, when you two are making out or in the mood you can push him to sit down somewhere that has a view to where you are going to stay, either a bed, sofa, the floor whatever, and you are going to start masturbating in front of him, showing it all, and maintaining eye contact, at some point he will probably start touching himself, and when you two are close again you say in his ear that you loved seeing him play with himself, and slowly start opening up to him about your kinks and turn-ons.

  12. Sit him down in the living room. Put his favourite porn on. Kneel in between his legs and tell him to keep his eyes focused on the screen because YOU want him to. Jerk him off, and when he gets close, stop and tell him you want to watch him finish himself off. Then praise him after he cums and tell him how hot you found it. Next time, remove yourself from the equation and just sit next to him on the couch, or do things like rub his balls while he masturbates and offer words of encouragement.

    Condition his ass.

  13. You could just tell him that you like to watch. Frankly I don’t see any issue with that

  14. Definitely talk to him, I have a similar obsession that has now led to a kind of free use arrangement we are starting and I’m so excited about how hot it’s gonna be 🤩 ETA: he was all for it! I was worried he might think I was crazy haha

  17. I would LOVE for my wife to ask me to jerk off for her, and ask me to FaceTime her while doing it!
    Then whilst doing it, see her rub one out at the same time.
    Talk to him—

  18. Tell him. Straight up. He will cream his panties. Or what I like to do with my wife is have it playing and show her while I’m quietly stroking and she jumps my bones. We love watching porn together and stroking together. It’s literally the best. We either share the screen or watch our own that we like and try to time our orgasms together. It’s the best

  19. Masturbating is great! My wife and I love looking at each other while masturbating. So sensual and intimate.

  20. Step 1- walk up to him and give a slobby bj, make sure he cums, if you have to have sex, so be it, just remember blow job,watch a video 8f you have questions
    Step 2- tell him how you feel

  23. M36 here, my wife and I opened up a lot about masturbation after I caught her touching herself like 3 times and we started talking about it.
    If one day I’m horny and pretend I’m going to take a nap and start masturbating, door open and it doesn’t matter if I make noise, if she’s in the mood she’ll join me.

  25. He might be thinking you are just saying it so as to appear to not be one of “those women” who dislike their partner watching porn, but then I would wonder why he married you if he still thinks you are just baiting him.
    I would simply ask him the question “when I tell you I find that hot, why don’t you believe me? Have I ever made you feel like I’m mad at you about it?” If you actually make him confront the mentality he seems to have about it it might help him address the issue.
    I say this as a married man who had a similar issue surrounding learning to stand up for myself (ex before my wife was a real headcase and looking back on it, was actually kind of abusive). My wife literally asked me why when she told me she wanted me to disagree and respected my opinion, I didn’t believe her. The fact that I had to answer her made me actually think and realize I was treating my wife the same way as my ex – walking one eggshells, trying not to upset her and it made me see how ridiculous that was to do since my wife is NOT my ex (thank GOD!)
    So perhaps, rather than trying just to tell him over and over again that you find it hot (it’s not currently working after all), ask him why he doesn’t believe what you are telling him.

  26. Does he know you like to watch? For most guys, just knowing their partner finds it hot is enough to make them want to do it. I love the feeling of jerking off while I’m on top riding her strapon (pegging). Her watching and encouraging me makes me feel really sexy.

  27. It amazes me how many posts on this thread could be solved by sitting down and talking. It’s your husband. Sit down and speak to him about your desires lol

  28. Tell him to jerk off in front of you while watching porn and pleasure yourself while he’s doing it to show him how much you enjoy it. Speaking encouraging things while he’s doing it can help too. “It’s getting so big” “I’m so wet watching you stroke your cock” “I want to see you explode and cum everywhere” “harder” “I’m gonna cum”

  30. When my wife isn’t in the mood, which is very often, I just tell her to lay in her side so I can stare at her ass and jerk off.

    The first time I did it she thought I was bluffing. I wasn’t.

  31. Friend of mine just sent me out of the blue, video of her masturbating. She got one of me jerking off in return pretty quickly. It was quickly established she liked that.

    Maybe try this too, show him there is no shame in it and that you like to see him 🙂

  34. The way my wife has does it. She picks out something to watch, strips naked, and sends me a text that says ‘Let’s watch a movie ”
    I get to the room to find her masturbating and she tells me to strip and join her.

    We have been watching porn and playing together since we started dating.

    Another fun porn twist is to take turns doing oral, the receiver watches a movie

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