This is what I would think about my mom and dad. Psychologically what does this mean?
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I just thought this way. I had an illness. My parents didn’t want to take to the doctor. My brother told me he would take me. I stayed sick longer than I should of because I wanted my parents to show me that they cared about me. There was a way out through my brother but I didn’t take it because I wanted them to prove themselves to me.
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No. People naturally recognize, appreciate, and value you when there is something respectable about you, not when you are actively trying chase and beg for their attention and validation.
Is it normal? Probably not. But do people think this and do this? Yes. You’ll hear lots of stories about how someone tries to injure themselves to get attention like wanting a broken bone and a cast to get people to talk to them or, worse, commit suicide for the fame. It’s possible that it’s MUNCHAUSEN SYNDROME, that is the diagnosis for people who feign or exaggerate an illness for attention.
I’m just some rando with a very limited background in psychology and definitely not an expert but I would think that they want attention but don’t know how to get it in a healthy way. They want people to be more sympathetic towards them because they feel and/or were neglected emotionally. There’s a plethora of things that it could mean but I would think the lack of emotional support or emotional fulfillment is a big contributing factor. If any actual harm is happening, seek out professional help ASAP.
What do you mean by mom and dad?
I used to have this thought process when I was young and even as an adult for some years.
I think I learned this behaviour especially with my mum. She could never see me hurt. It was the easiest way to gain power over her or to defeat her.
Took a lot of trauma for me to unlearn this habit.
they still won’t and then you’ll be sad and injured.
no. it’s not. im sorry you’re feeling this way. 😕i’ll dm you, you can reply if you wish to talk.
Sounds like a cry for help. Why do you seek the attention or affection from others?
This way of thinking is quite common, but not healthy. It’s usually caused by a lack of emotional support during childhood, but it’s a deadly trap when you are an adult.
In adulthood, self-pity will push most people in your life away from you and will throw you in a downward spiral. Try to avoid this.
People will be much more likely to pay attention to you if you have a positive aura. But also bear in mind that even with positive vibes, not everyone will feel like to be around you. Just focus on yourself, not in getting attention from one particular person or group of people.
Normal for you? Technically yes. This is a coping mechanism to get your emotional needs met. And it stops you from having healthy relationships. You’ll even mentally create injuries and illnesses in your mind and body to get people to care about you. Unless you change this, you’ll only have caretaker vs patient relationships for most of your life.
They “prove” themselves based on real needs you have as a child/young adult and as a result of not shifting this habit, will solidify your attracting “caretakers.”
Healthy relationships want you to be a more expansive version of you. If that includes you holding onto illnesses to gain significance then so be it.
Personally I think those who love you want you to be better but you seem to gain something from constant sickness. So…🤷🏾♂️