I always enema before we try, use buttplugs, try orgasming beforehand, lots of lube and foreplay but for whatever reason it hurts like hell trying penetration. Any tips to help a gal out?

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  3. Go slow and use lube are the number one thing. Also I find that it helps if you have an orgasm first.

  4. Here’s how I did with a couple tight anal virgin gf’s of mine: orgasm and use cum as lube on the anus, use Vaseline generously on too of that and then go really slow. I insert like a third of an inch every 30 seconds, feel it fit & adjust, then put additional third of an inch. Once I reach about 2 inches: then I insert about an inch at a time every 15 seconds. Trick that I realized is to insert gently and let the ladies anus adjust. Once it opens up it is so much fun for both the girl and me!
    Hope you succeed. Enjoy

  5. Heres what you need: Coconut oil, an enema, some toy that is bigger than your fingers but still smaller than your partner.

    Alright here’s what you’re gonna do:

    set down a towel or a blanket, you’re gonna get into the mood do your usual foreplay but then grab your coconut oil and take the time to slowly insert a finger yourself. Once you feel comfortable with that allow your partner to try. Get comfortable with it and once you feel ready try a toy, maybe that’s a butt plug or maybe its a small dildo/vibrator. relax and focus on your breathing, don’t hold your breath because you’re gonna stiffen up.

    Now you get on your hands and knees on the bed, try to stay mostly level because arching your back is gonna make that angle tighter. Your partner will stand on the floor, and you’re gonna let him line up with you and just let the tip in, its likely gonna be the softest part of the penis. Once you can manage the tip your partner cannot move. Don’t even let him touch you, his hands stay to himself and you’re gonna slowly push yourself back and gently take it. If you need more lube you need to use it asap. More is better, don’t worry about staining the sheets cuz you laid an extra one down remember? you just have to breathe. Please for the love of god just breathe and relax. don’t do any kegels or like gyrate your hips or anything right now just focus on getting it all in.

    Once you have it in just stay with it inside, let your body adjust to it, and one YOURE ready start to move. Its gonna feel fucking weird trust me but you’ll get used to it and start to enjoy it hopefully. Once you’re comfortable and can handle it inside and moving yourself on their cock, then they can grab your hips and move your body and then eventually he can start thrusting.

    Best of luck solider, keep reddit updated.

  6. I haven’t personally tried this before however a friend of mine suggested to me one time using stretching cream. you can either buy it from general stores however if you go to an adult store they should have better ones to use.

  7. You know how when you relax your muscles are lose and when you tense they’re tight? The anus is the opposite of that, its tense in its relaxed state. So instead of relaxing, “tense” the muscle by bearing down as if you’re going to take a shit.

    Use a lubricanted condom. I dunno if its a me-thing but no matter how much lube we use and how lubricated the penis/toy is, during penetration it feels like my rim is so tight is “pushes” the lube away. So the outside is lubricated and the inside is lubricated but the rim itself feels like it isn’t, which can make initial penetration sting. Ive found lubricated condoms minimize or remove this problem. Ive also heard squirting lube inside can help but we dont have a lube bottle with a tip that can be used that way so I can’t verify that personally.

    Try toys or anal training. If your bf or toy is big and youve never had successful anal beforez and/or don’t do it regularly, I’ve found the diameter just feels too big to comfortably take, no matter how many fingers i use to open myself up. Having a buttplug in beforehand, or working your way up to larger diameters with an anal training kit, can help get you used to taking larger diameters easier.

    You can also try stretching just a bit more during penetration. This step depends on how high your pain tolerance is and how far you guys “get”. If penetration hurts too much to get in at all, this won’t work. But if he can get far enough to get the head in, what can help is him inserting his thumb beside his dick or the toy for a couple of minutes and then removing it. It hurts for a bit, but after that removing the thumb makes the pain go away because you’re now less stretched. But this does sting a bit so if you’re uncomfortable with pain or have a low pain tolerance this won’t be any fun at all. Good luck!

  10. First of all , lots of foreplay , if he loves eating pussy let him do that while he massages your asshole a bit . Use lot of lube and let him go in slowly just with the tip inside at first. Once you’re comfortable with the tip , have him go in inch by inch . Keep adding some lube while you do that .
    Try going in different positions, you can put a pillow under your hip while you’re laying in missionary, would help get easiest access and you guys can kiss as well

  11. To me, the most important part is mindset. If you’re thinking “oh no, this is going to hurt” then it will hurt. So instead, my mindset is “come on and get in there, because it’s going to feel so good” Admittedly, this is much easier to do once you’ve successfully experienced painless anal. But I do find this to be the most important factor.

    For physical tricks, make sure you have a patient partner. Then have him just insert a tiny, fraction of his penis and then immediately out. Then repeat and slowly start to progress a little more/deeper but keep pulling out immediately. I find that in/out progression helps the sphincter to relax. As you progress through that process, you’ll eventually have full thrusting and insertion. The gradual progression really works well for me.

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