My s/o is the only man I’ve been with (19 years), and he INSISTS on extreme pain from going too long without. “Too long” could be even just a few days (Or from it not being good enough). My question is, to a bunch of unbiased men… is this accurate? I could understand if there was an issue with leading him on… but that’s definitely not the case.
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First I’ve ever heard of anything like that. If that’s **really** the case he needs to see a doctor because SOMETHING’s going on, maybe prostate related, who knows. It is certainly 100%, absolutely NOT normal.
Frankly it sounds a lot more like he is manipulating/guilting you lol
He’s manipulating you.
I gather he chooses not to masturbate? Some men, mostly younger males, can have some discomfort if they do not ejaculate for a longer period of time. In most cases, the male body will solve this with a wet dream.
Blue balls is uncomfortable. But in case he did not go through puberty …. He can cause ejaculation on his own using his hand which will relieve the pressure….
This is not true. There is no pain from abstinence at all. If he gets really horny every day and doesn’t release it, it gets uncomfortable. That’s it. And only if you keep getting horny.
He’s manipulating you
If he’s in extreme physical pain he should see a doctor.
Yeh it’s frustrating to go without sex for long periods, you feel like you’re in the same room as your partner but she’s behind a big sheet of plexiglass. Present yet distant and disconnected. You have the urge for physical pleasure and release too of course.
But it shouldn’t hurt that much.
I can last about a week before it gets uncomfortable. Pretty simple fix if wife isn’t feeling amenable-can be a little demoralizing, though.
Sounds like manipulation.
He’s full of crap. Even if it was true (which it’s not), he could still take care of himself to alleviate the pain.
If he’s actually in physical pain (which I doubt) he should see a doctor, because that’s not normal. And what’s stopping him from jacking off?
He could just masturbate that away even if it were true.
I’d describe it as mental pain and physical discomfort if it has been too long. Physical pain is either blue balls, which can be remedied by masturbating or some medical condition. How long do you usually go between sessions?