Out of nowhere a long time friend and I have moved past just being friends…
Now single, she was visiting family for the holiday and we got together as “friends” but spent an amazing night together and now I plan on visiting her right after the new year.
We can’t have an exclusivity talk since it is way too soon. This was our first time ever hanging out together one on one other than times we broke away from the group time to time when traveling.
On one hand I want to just focus on her and feelings-wise (I have a date tonight that I am now not interested in) I don’t want to get to know anyone else, but also don’t want to get too caught up and come on too strong with her or miss any opportunities with other women.
Not sure how to navigate this…
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You’re not committed to anyone yet so there is no harm in talking to multiple women and getting to know them. I would advise against having sex with them though. Favouring one is also okay. You don’t owe any of them anything other than honesty. If your intention is to be with one of them, it does look kinda gross to be sleeping with one or a few while talking to others but again, you owe no one anything. As long as you’re not doing any of that while committed to only one of them.
My boyfriend wanted to be exclusive like a few weeks into meeting 😂 it threw me off but maybe I’m just different. I honestly ignored it but he was already the only guy I was interested in so it worked out but I don’t recommend telling someone you love them after 5 weeks like he did lol. Maybe after your visit you can talk about *getting* to that point of exclusivity and just taking your time and being comfortable getting to know each other. It’s nice to know someone’s intentions. Exclusivity to me is when you’re only talking to and seeing one person but you’re not a couple yet, you’re still in the deciding stage. No obligations other than honesty and focusing on only each other.