So I matched with a girl in early November and we had been chatting for a few weeks but as I was away visiting my family we couldn’t meet up straight away.
We did arrange to go for drinks at the end of November and had two long phone calls each weekend beforehand. The date went well, and slept together and agreed to meetup again the week after next (as I had to go to a work event the next week).
We did have another phone call that week though and we’ve been texting each day. We plan to meet up again next week and maybe the week after as well before she goes home for Christmas.
She seems to be the real deal and I really like her. We seem to be pretty well matched in terms of what we are looking for and we get on well.
My question.. Before she goes away for 3 weeks for Christmas should I bring up being exclusive? We would have been speaking for two months, had 3 phone calls and 3 dates.
I’m just worried that if I don’t something might happen/change in the three weeks she’s away over Christmas and New years. But Is it too soon and might scare her away?
Thanks
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Too soon. Ask her to be your girlfriend maybe late Jan or Feb.
You can DTR anytime after sex.
Whether she would be ready to be exclusive, though, that’s the question.
Most girls I know, if they wanted casual, they’d be more upfront about it. If she’s slept with you, she’s at least contemplated the idea of a LTR with you. It’s the guy who usually keep their post sex plans close to the chest and drop the FWB bomb when the *girl* wants to DTR.
Too soon after just 3 dates, she’s probably still talking to other guys. (Which she is allowed to)
“I’m just worried that if I don’t something might happen/change in the three weeks she’s away over Christmas and New years”
You can’t lock her down because of that. Yeah I know the timing sucks, but you’re just going to have to deal with it. If she meets someone else during those 3 weeks, then it’s not meant to be.