We’ve been together for a little over 3 years now, and I’ve never really expressed interest in a threesome before, aside from watching porn related to threesomes, although that was moreso out of curiosity than anything.
But yet, he continues to bring it up saying “I know you’re interested in having a threesome” and I’m confused because I’ve always been monogamous… so I feel like this is his way of saying he wants to have one.
And I’m not really sure how to respond to this or if I should try it out anyways.
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That’s just him trying to pressure you in doing it,and although maybe trying it sounds OK because you wanna do it for him, just think about how you’re gonna feel afterwards, that’s why I have yet to do it. Also I don’t like chicks.
If you are not interested, you say “I am not going to entertain this, it is not a topic for any future discussion either”
Probably nine out of ten guys would want to try a FFM threesome, so yes… he wants a threesome.
The question is do YOU want a threesome? Two girls? Two guys? There are a million reasons you should not do it. There are also good reasons to try it now while you’re young before your life gets complicated for a while. Caution tells you that it could screw up your relationship. Adventure tells you that it could be an experience that you would enjoy and remember forever.
Whether it’s for you or not, don’t let him pressure you into it. If you feel pressured, you should let him know and talk about that. A healthy relationship is balanced, and that means respecting your feelings.
How would you feel seeing him with another girl? If it makes you uncomfortable at all, be straight with him.
If this is something you have no interest in, tell him straight. There is nothing wrong with establishing boundaries and he should respect them.
Hang on here…
Seems he might be projecting a little bit. It’s one thing watching porn a whole different kettle of fish doing it IRL.
If you’re not comfortable doing this IRL tell him that and tell him the topic is closed. Don’t ever do anything (sex or not) with someone because you’re being pressure or because apathy.
Do it be used you really want to do it.
You’re not into it? Tell him. You don’t have to do anything you’re not comfortable with. He either accepts that, or he doesn’t, and it becomes a problem later where you have to rethink certain decisions. Point is, communicate, and don’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t want.
Tell him you’ve come around and are looking forward to having a MFM threesome and see what he does. Hahaha. I kidddd.
Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with. Your opinion on your own sexual experiences obviously takes precedence.
If you ever do a threesome, avoid friends, colleagues and acquaintances, hire a couples escort to ensure it is a good time (male or female). Don’t get casual hook ups or swingers, because you want to guarantee performance and comfortability; without jealousy etc.
We’ll see you back here in a week after you try it and one of you ends up mad and breaks up with the other and asks “what went wrong”
Sounds like he takes your interest in threesomes in porn to be something you want in irl. Just say no. And ask why he’s so interested. Does he want to have sex with someone else so bad? Even the suggestion of a threesome would be a dealbreaker to me.
Establish your boundaries, only move them on your terms.
He’s gaslighting you into one. However, they are fun and I do highly recommend