Me and a friend planned a trip last weekend to valencia. (we are in spain) She was off this week from her job and went to portugal. She was supposed to come back on thursday and we were going to go on saturday and return sunday.
We already bought the tickets. They’re non refundable.
Then today she texts me and says she not gonna go to valencia because she found out she doesn’t have to work friday so she’s gonna stay in portugal until sunday…
How am i supposed to respond or react to this? I haven’t said anything yet because i’m just shocked that someone would cancel a non refundable trip just to extend another trip. Especially when she’s the one that asked me to go.
I don’t have anyone else to go with and i’ve already been there alone and it’s the kind of city where it’s best spent with friends.
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Go without her, offer the ticket to someone else!
Can you get someone else to use her ticket? If not I would still go, when she’s back talk to her about it and how you feel about her doing this to you
Get another friend to go with you
Most “non-refundable” tickets usually mean that you cannot get your money back, but you can get a credit on your next trip. You may want to look into that.
As for your friend, she knows exactly what she did, so getting upset won’t really accomplish anything. It may make you feel a bit better, but realize she’s not suddenly going to decide to come back and go to Valencia.
What you’ve learned is that this person is selfish and not dependable. Make you you never allow yourself to be put in the position to depend on her again. Also, don’t bother to extend yourself for someone this selfish. Selfish people take without any sense of obligation. You’ve now learned a very valuable lesson. This is a clear message about how much you and your friendship matter to her. Don’t be a better friend to her than she is to you.
You can blow up the friendship, but why bother.
Simply send her a message back that says something along the lines of: “That’s disappointing. I was looking forward to the trip, and the tix weren’t refundable. I wish you would have cancelled before I spent the money.”
Then, put a little distance between you. There is no need for a dramatic confrontation. Just let it drift apart, especially if you have acquaintances in common or a shared friend group.
For now, don’t say anything to her at all. Give yourself time to think about and process what she did, and to determine the best way to respond. What she did was absolutely wrong; maybe she’ll come to realize that and apologize (in the least), or maybe she just won’t care. So, let her be the one to contact you, and see if she says anything else about it.
If you want to go alone, then by all means go. But, if you do, then she might act like it wasn’t any “loss,” for you.
I had a best friend of 10 years that would cancel stuff the last minute. This was the reason i stopped being friends with her eventually. This is a pretty big thing, and shows how much the person really cares about you.
“I’m not sure what friendships you have where it’s acceptable to cancel because other, “better” plans come along but I’m really disappointed and thought you respected me a bit more than this. All I can say is enjoy your trip. I won’t be repeating this mistake with you.”
It sounds like you are feeling frustrated and disappointed that your friend has canceled your trip to Valencia. It is understandable that you would feel this way, especially since you have already bought non-refundable tickets and were looking forward to the trip.
In this situation, it might be helpful to calmly and directly communicate with your friend about how you are feeling. You could try saying something like: “I’m really disappointed that you have decided to cancel our trip to Valencia. I understand that you want to extend your trip to Portugal, but it’s frustrating for me because I have already bought non-refundable tickets and was looking forward to our trip together.”
It might also be helpful to discuss with your friend how you can prevent this situation from happening again in the future. For example, you could agree to make final decisions about plans and not cancel on each other without discussing it first.
Overall, it’s important to prioritize clear and honest communication in your relationship with your friend. By openly expressing your feelings and concerns, you can work together to address any issues and maintain a strong and healthy friendship.