I’m 19f and recently lost my virginity to a experienced 24m. I feel embarrassed although he’s really understanding that I’m bad. I don’t know how to ride and have tried reverse and just couldn’t. I want to make him feel good for a change as he always makes me feel good. What positions are easy and allow me to take control rather than him?
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I don’t think there is an easy one that you can get straight away…btw, it’s normal to not know how to move correctly your body the first times. Give yourself time and practice, you’ll get there. Don’t be too much stressed during sex, be natural and follow also your body, your pleasure. Don’t forget to be guided by the feeling, cause you can be too worried thinking if you re doing it right or wrong.
Nobody is great at anything till they have done it for awhile. Don’t feel bad , try and enjoy the experiences. And adopt an attitude of playful curiosity.
Personally as a male I would say a bj as it allows him to sit back and let you suck him off. If your okay with this and he enjoys them just discuss what you want and if you want tips go to this subs top of all time and there is a great post on how to give them… however some people are uncomfortable with this so I would say if you want to get better at riding do low pulse squats with a wider base (it’s a good workout and good practice) keep at it
Practice makes perfect and honestly most guys enjoy the clumsy inexperienced thing at least a little. He’s understanding because 1) he’s not an asshole (this is good!) but also 2) secretly he’s kinda in to it.
Cowgirl is the #1 position I can think of where the girl is fully in control. If you lack the coordination or whatever the problem is to do a traditional cow girl (it’s also a lot of work, and hard on the legs!) then an alternative to it is the same position, but you kinda grind on him instead of bouncing. Pretty hard to mess up and feels good for both parties, especially for women because it will stimulate the clit while you’re also being penetrated.
The best position to start with would be traditional cowgirl. When you are sitting on him with him inside you instead of trying to go up and down, rock your hips forward and back in a smooth motion. Circling your hips is good too. Mix it up with a variety of those movements. If you want it to be more dominating you can lean forward hold down each of his wrists with your hands while you rock/glide your hips back and forth. This is also a great view for him as your breasts will be in his face. Another variation on that is to lean all the way down so you are chest to chest. You can wrap your arms around his neck and shoulders. Great way to kiss on the neck too.
Just keep trying and doing what feels good and you will get there. Don’t be embarrassed. Freely communicate with each other. Relax and enjoy. Do all this and you will have an amazing sex life.
Just be yourself and have fun . 🙂
You got to learn to crawl to walk and to walk to run. Its perfectly ok to be not great at the start.
Enthusiasm wins at all times just worship his body with yours, so what feels good and verbalise what you want and what you like.
I’m going to be honest, I think an experienced person has a responsibility to work with a less experienced one rather than the inexperienced one trying to make it good for the experienced one. That sounded like a tongue twister, but the essence of it is, he should be understanding of you right now and you shouldn’t be embarrassed. He should show you what to do, or at least tell you verbally. You shouldn’t be feeling any pressure.