How to let go of wanting to orgasm and just enjoy sex regardless?

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1. Most women struggle with – or never can – orgasm from PIV sex alone.

   Incorporate clit play – you rub it, he rubs it, someone uses a toy.

   Experiment with positions that provide g spot stimulation – prone bone, certain angles for riding, others.

   Unless it makes you too sensitive to enjoy sex, why not go with oral for an orgasm prior to PIV – or after? Or both?

2. You may find that part of the problem may be your intense focus on TRYING to achieve an orgasm. No guarantees but if in your own mind you just take the focus off of reaching an orgasm and just relax and enjoy it, it might actually come. When the sole focus of sex is on each person achieving orgasm, it can actually be less enjoyable.

   But … if you are able to achieve orgasm through masturbation, then make sure you are communicating what works for you to your BF.

3. Does he do any oral or fingering?

4. Do you masturbate and know how to bring yourself to orgasm? If yes, would you be willing to show him? (If he is interested, of course, in learning how to get you off. From your OP, it sounds like he’s happy to leave you hanging.) If he’s not, I’d say time to move on. Do not stay in relationships with unfulfilling sexual component. Sex is integral to any longterm relationship between sexual ppl(vs asexual ppl), so it doesnt make sense to inflict frustration and discomfort upon yourself.

   Hopefully this guy is ready and willing to learn how to get you off, and you just need to take the initiative to show him what you like and want.

5. Have you tried clit stimulation during PIV? That works very well for us.

6. Make him give you an orgasm before he does. If you are still needing an orgasm then go for it and self pleasure. Communicate your needs …HL male and you wanting to orgasm is not unusual.

7. Try googling OMGYES and see if it is worth for you.

   You can also search for Kenneth Play on Pornhub and watch some instructional videos together….

   So many good ideas!

8. >and want to have sex again later or the next day but I don’t think he does.

   Then proposition him and find out if he actually does. Talk with him, show him. He should be happy to try to help you enjoy sex more.

   My logic has always been, “If she likes it more, she’ll want more. If she wants it more, I’ll get it more.”

9. Focus on sex for enjoyment and if you come from partnered sex its a bonus. Then masturbate to scratch the itch afterwards if you need to.

10. First of all just relax and try and feel the benefits of sex. Let it distract you and feel good. Get lost in that and you may find your nut. Orgasms for women is definitely harder and some women don’t. But stressing won’t get you there. You know you’re body and that you can so it’s probably mental and to do with letting go during.
    But to stop being horny – if you can masturbate and orgasm (you can try and involve him by letting him watch etc) or my favourite just get them to tire you out – have longer rounds, more position and have him last longer so that you can be satisfied in a way

    But honestly even if it takes longer to make you orgasm you do have to let him know how or else you’ll be the only one losing.

11. I am a man, I have struggled for years to orgasm during sex and even masturbation. This is related to my medication. However, I enjoy sex with my wife because it’s fun and she orgasms at least once using my body, face and grinding on my pecker.

12. are you only talking about penetration or oral as well and can you cum from pleasuring yourself? if so just do that before or after

13. There are some meds you could try but you may not want a beard.