Sorry in advance for the quick backstory. I (m23) was single and not interested in sexual partner for a couple years, and would masterbait 3-4 times a day due to high sex drive but no interest in finding a partner. Recently that has changed and have found a couple partners in the past 12 months. I think all the masterbaiting has affected because during sex even if it’s good it doesn’t feel like before and can go 1-2hrs and not finish. For every 3/4 times out of 5 I have sex it ends with me not reaching my orgasm even if my partner has had 1-2. Multiple partners have cut me off saying I “made them feel bad” since I gave them an orgasm but they couldn’t give me one. Do girls really get upset with this? Don’t get me wrong I do enjoy it but I can’t push myself past the edge to reach my orgasm and I don’t want someone to feel bad for this.
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I agree that excessive masturbation had conditioned your body to make it harder to experience an orgasm during sex.
Women are also conditioned to believe that a male orgasm signals the end of sex- it’s the goal. Not orgasming makes them feel inadequate in the same way that not being able to make a woman orgasm makes a male feel inadequate, except it’s worse because society and porn has made us believe that, unlike women, it’s so easy for men to reach orgasm that not having one must mean that he’s not attracted to you or you’ve done something wrong.
For me personally, I get a lot of pleasure from being a part of giving an orgasm, and I don’t enjoy penetration for an hour+. If that my sex with a casual partner involved prolonged penetration with no orgasm, I might consider this as part of my decision to find other partners.
Instant gratification generation. It’s something to work with, together. Requires some type og communication and trying out different things.
Completly normal from what I understand, given your history before engaging with someone.
Probably madtutbationnis your culprit. I have nerve damage and a little bit of a hard time coming no matter what, and my experience is that most women feel awful if they cant make me cum. Societal pressures and the notion that men are easy to make cum, i think.