basically title, i have a few friends here and there with different interests but no one really cares about me. like no one goes out of their way to talk to me or even take the time to ask how i’m doing. I guess i’m also asking how to care about people myself, i don’t know how much and when i should invest my time in them, because i don’t want to come off as a creep and as that “annoying guy who thinks we’re friends”
just genuinely want to form a connection with someone and have a friend that can talk to me about random shit or even deep/intimate topics.
i feel really fucking lonely sometimes and my mental health is suffering for it.
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be vulnerable
not saying be an open book, but don’t hide your imperfections.
additionally, a standing close relationship will remain strong so long as the energy put in is mutual… so, be sure to show your homies you care about them too
it’s not creepy to care; and if you’re ridiculed for it, then know they weren’t really down for you anyway and you can invest more energy in yourself and other things.
i think caring and commitment are different things. if you want consistency you need to make it clear to a friend, say “hey wanna meet up this week for coffee?” depending on the friend, if they dont mind being blunt, you can even say “it would be nice if we met up every week to catch up on each other’s lives”.
caring about people is easy if its the right person. so instead of trying to care for everyone you can find, let yourself be open to meeting new peoplel and there will be a caring relationship that just happens out of nowhere