Women in fulfilling LTR how do you feel about the phrase ” romantic relationships are not that important”?

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1. I think it’s a valid opinion for some people to have, though obviously doesn’t apply to everyone

2. I think that the context is important. Romantic relationships are an optional part of life, so in that way they are not that important. Someone can have an amazing and fulfilling life without a romantic relationship. That fact doesn’t make my own relationship any less special or important to me.

3. I’ve been in relationships and very unhappy.

   I’ve been single and unhappy (but never as unhappy as in a bad relationship)

   I’ve been in a relationship and very happy

   I’ve been single and very happy.

   Maybe what people mean is that not all unhappiness or problems can be solved by being in a romantic relationship?

   There are a lot of other aspects to life, friends, family, job, hobbies, how you feel about yourself, health, mental health, money, security…. romantic relationships are just one of the many things in life.

4. I think for some it’s totally valid. I have a friend who has been single by choice her entire life, and she’s happy, fulfilled and successful. It very much depends on the person and their personal values!

5. It’s true. I have an LTR, but not because I need one. I’d be just as happy single.

6. I think it has some truth behind it. I’ve been in my relationship for 8 years (married for 3) and while I love my husband and enjoy having him in my life, I’d also have a great and complete life without him. I think it’s easy for people to lose sight of the fact that most relationships (romantic or otherwise) should be, generally, adding to their life.

7. It’s like saying anything is “not important” – you can’t really make that argument in good faith because different things are important to different people.

   Telling me not to want something I really want because it’s “not that important” doesn’t help me, it just tells me that you and I think different things are important.

8. I agree with it.

9. It’s true for some people. For me, I do find them important. When I was younger or in a bad relationship, I might agree with the phrase.

10. Being happy is important, whether that’s being single or a relationship.

11. I think that people can make their own choices and lots of people do not find that romantic relationships add positive effect onto their lives.

12. It’s true for some people, definitely not for others, and is going to change over time for a lot of us. I often see the phrase used to minimize the feelings of single people who don’t want to be single, which is shitty. It’s pointless to make broad value statements about things that every human is going to feel differently about.

13. I think if you’re in one, it’s hugely important. Being in a LTR takes up a lot of your time, in most cases it changes fundamentally how you live your life, your decisions and your future.

    But when you’re single, of course it’s not important. I think other things take on that priority instead, whether it’s your friends, self improvement, your career, whatever. And there’s no value judgment over what’s better, it’s all relative.

14. I mean, I don’t disagree. The older I get, the more I feel that platonic relationships are just as, if not more, important.

15. For some people, a romantic relationship isn’t important. I respect that. For me, a romantic relationship is important. Relationships are not necessary to survive and for some not needed to thrive. For me, my relationship is very important and adds a lot of happiness to my life but not everyone is the same or wants the same things.

16. I’ve never considered them important. Never actively sought a partner in my life. If I met someone and ended up in a relationship, cool. If not, cool. I’m currently engaged but would more than likely be single if I hadn’t met this guy and it would be fine

17. They’re certainly not important to everyone. Those who believe that have valid feelings.