she won’t do any position outside of missionary and doggy, she won’t give head either. She gave her ex head while they were together but told me that i have people to compare her to and he didn’t and she’s scared it will be bad. We’ve been dating for 3 months and have had sex 30+ times. She has never taken her shirt off and we have to use a condom every single time even though she’s on birth control. It honestly is just really boring to me and i have no idea what to do. i like her a lot but the sex just is boring. With my ex it was kind of like she was down for whatever so we did a lot of different things but this is just so basic.
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Have you told her that you think this? Ask her why she’s so reserved with you and maybe you can start taking steps to open her up to trying new things.
>what do i do?
Well, the obvious option for someone you’ve *only been with for 3 months* is to break up and find someone you’re more sexually compatible with. What’s holding you back from doing that?
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Maybe it’s time for a blunt conversation. Put your cards on the table. It’s been 3 months, early enough to walk away, but enough time to know whether you want to continue the relationship if the issues are fixed.
Just tell her straight. “I like you and want to see where this goes, but being able to explore each other’s sexuality is something I need to have from my partner. I’m not going to be able to be in long term relationship without it.”
Those are the facts. She’s either willing to explore a bit or she isn’t. Don’t get me wrong, no one should do anything they’re not comfortable with but you’re also altered l allowed to say that’s not what you want.
It’s seems like it’s mainly a confidence issue on her side (not removing the t shirt, not wanting tonbe compared on oral performance). So i guess, rather than just throwing her away like people say, just make her more confident about herself, her body.
That being said, she probably will not be as open as your ex ever from what you say, but who knows.
I’d say, first address confidence issues. Then, being open and positive about sex can go a long way. Ultimately, no one can tell you whether you should be with her or not, or whether you’re satisfied with what you have or not. Maybe you need someone more into experimenting, maybe you don’t. The answer is in yourself