Hi, I (F21) started a relationship with someone that makes me feel good with my body. I’ve been having an eating disorder since I was 14 and I’ ve never took pics of my body because when I saw them after I would have a mental breakdown.
With him I feel comfortable naked, I know he doesn’t judge me. He sometimes send me pics and I know he would like if I send him one of mine too.
I’m not forced to send him at all, I just want to try if I can feel comfortable taking pics of my self and if I like them send them to him. So my questions are two:
1- Anyone in here with an Ed or poor self esteem have any advice?
2- Is there any subreddit of “soft” nudes for inspiration? Not very graphic nudes, just things like pics in underwear or a shirt or something like that
Thank you in advance and please don’t dm creepy things
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First thing to consider when sending nudes to someone is that there is always the possibility they will be leaked. So protect yourself by making sure your face or any identifiable marks (or even surroundings) are hidden.
You could start small with just some small teases of bits of you. As a guy (especially if he is as understanding as he seems) small teases are sometimes just as fun as full nudes. Maybe just a peak down your shirt that just shows a bit of your bra. Or just the top of your thigh covered in a stocking. Closeup on your tight tshirt…
I can’t speak to your first question, but as to your second query the subreddit /r/GoneMild is a pretty good source of more clothed pics for inspiration imo.
Are there any parts of your body he seems particularly fond of? If so, it might be easier to start with a picture type that highlights said feature? Focusing on his perception of you might help with some of the inwards-facing anxiety.