So I’m an 18F female and tried to have sex for the first time last night. Everything was going fine, but then when my BF tried to put his dick in… it would not go in. He was able to finger me but like the dick would just not go in 😭
I felt so horrible because I feel like my anatomy is fucked up. I literally don’t know what was going on and why that happened.
Is this common for first-timers? Should I go see a doctor about this?
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That depends. Is this guy significantly above average in size? Did he go slow? Did you use enough (or any) lube?
I’ve just posted a similar question 😂🙈
You might just need more of a warm up, more foreplay to get you interested and your vagina relaxed more. Deff use lube as well
You need lots of foreplay, and not just making out. Slowly get each other naked, touch, kiss, lick, explore each other’s bodies. Most women need 20-30 minutes of foreplay to be fully aroused. Once you’re fully aroused, the pelvic floor relaxes (making penetration easier), the vaginal canal lengthens and tents out, and most women will produce natural lubrication. For your first time, I’d suggest using lube anyways!
He is too thick for you. And it’s your first time…
You first time will be when you are hardest to penetrate, because of your hymen. You need to do a few things.
Be very aroused and wet. He needs to softly tease you with his mouth and fingers for at least 30 minutes. Use lube before he tries to penetrate you. Go slow. Stop when there is pain. Go back to fingers. Build things up. Adding one finger at a time to slowly stretch you. When you try again, keep in mind you may be at the wrong angle. You have a pubic bone that can be in the way of you don’t angle it right. and stop the whole session and try the next day if it’s still not working. Also he may simply be too thick period. I personally can’t take thicker than a banana without tearing, even with all the prep. All women are different.
Try using a dialator to teach the muscles how to relax. There are kits that are relatively inexpensive with dialators in progressively larger sizes. Additionally, you need extra lube. Lubricated condom is not always enough.
It can also help if you have at least one orgasm before you start having sex because it can help with blood flow and natural lubrication.
All in all, lube is your friend.
This comes up a lot on this subreddit. It’s quite common. Check the FAQ. You need to loosen up your pelvic floor, stretch your vagina a little and invest in foreplay and lube.
So you may need to cum first. Actually you always should. 20 mins is bare min for foreplay. Use toys to warm and stretch it first.
happened to me as well during my first time. You need to loosen up and relax. just breath and be calm heck push it open lol