Long story short my gf[32] is upset that I won’t defend her against her own mother. We’ve been together for 7 years and they’ve never really gotten along, but lately things have been getting worse and my gf expects me to stand up to her mom. I’m a passive introverted woman and with a submissive personality and I told her I don’t like confrontation. So she tells me I am too soft and passive. Now she wants to break up because I won’t go to battle with her and she’s needs someone who will. She says I should see how much she is hurting and I should go to battle with her if I’m going to be her wife. I explained to her that she’s not alone and I always comfort and support her when they have fights, but it’s not enough. Any advice?
TL;DR! Gf says I’m too soft because I won’t defend her against her mom. Now she wants to break up
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So let me get this straight: she won’t stand up to her mom, but she expects you to? Eh, you might be better off without her.
I beg your pardon, Op. I missed something.
If your girlfriend is not willing to stand up to her own MOTHER, why does she expect, demand, and be willing to break up with you, If you don’t?
Might be a good idea for you both to avoid her mother.
Usually, it’s ‘Your family, so you sort them.’
If she needs someone to fight her mother, for her, she needs to end contact with her mother.