Hi all, i’m an 18 year old virgin girl who just recently tried to have sex for the first time with my boyfriend (m18). Before we started to try penetration we were doing foreplay. He got hard pretty fast so we put on the condom and put on some lube. I was fairly wet when we were trying too. As he was putting it in, it was like something blocking him to fully enter. Every time he would try to enter he would go in a little bit, something would stop him, and then his penis would go soft. We tried other positions too like doggy, me on top, and sideways but it wouldn’t go in. Also at one point during doggy he said it hurt him a little when trying to enter. He told me it was fine and that we can try again another time but I keep thinking about it and feel bad :(. I just want to know is there anything that we can do so that next time it goes in?
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Yeah. You were probably not wet enough. Him getting hard is not the sole point of foreplay.
First the is always a bit difficult.
Give yourself some more foreplay, being wet is good, being wet and relaxed is more important. You or he can try stretching you beforehand a bit with a finger and trying mire fingers after a while.
For a man it can get pretty bothersome when he faces difficulties during penetration and getting sift is one of them. Don’t worry, just give it another go next time
I’m glad to see people suggest he be better to you first because that’s likely part of it, but may I also suggest: vaginismus. Have you tried and failed to insert tampons or toys before your “first time?” Vaginismus is a condition where your vaginal canal won’t open wide enough to let anything in, where it feels like there may as well be no opening.
Your muscles are just too tight/contracted because it was your first time and you weren’t relaxed enough. It happens very commonly. I’d suggest HEAPS of foreplay, oral stimulation, fingers first and go slow. You can’t go from 0-100 like that when you’re first starting out. Very normal. You have to take it super slow and be really really relaxed and comfortable
Good advice here, especially stretching/probing with fingers and toys. Another thing that might help is having an orgasm or two right before you go for penetration. Orgasms can really open your pelvic floor. Cunnilingus is great for that. Get that boy on your pussy!
I also could not get it in my first attempt, it is now only a problem if I am not wet. Try some lube and work it in slowly.
Three tips for my guy
1)when attempting penetration..He shouldn’t try to go all the way at the beginning..no pushing!. .just start slow and slow in a thrusting motion back and forth, while being mostly outside..then with the same motion the tip of the penis goes in ..keep thrusting back and forth .. slowly increasing the depth. Until some point. ..well, you’re fucking. Doesn’t take more than a minute btw
2)Also missionary was for me the easiest way to penetrate at the beginning.
3)he should work on his masturbating habits. Like masturbate less and try to control it. And also masturbate in a condom a couple of times to get used to it. And do it in different positions.
Sorry for the details. You two are still very young.so no rush.
I’m just sharing what helped me in my own experience with my first time