Should I feel bad about asking him to wear a condom?

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1. No, you shouldn’t feel bad. Being so willing to have casual unprotected sex is a red flag. Please take your health seriously.

2. If you don’t want to have sex without a condom that is absolutely ok and entirely your choice, nothing to feel bad about. He can choose to use one or not have sex with you.

3. Shouldn’t feel bad even a little. Don’t ask him, you need to tell him to.

4. No, you shouldn’t feel bad. You asked him to wear a condom and he didn’t. You also shouldn’t feel bad for asking your partner to wear a condom it’s a perfectly reasonable request and by ignoring it your breaking consent.

5. Sexual health comes before sexual pleasure

6. Fuck no. I say this as a boy who hates condoms, I can’t really perform with them, so I’m very motivated to go without – but, that’s after conversations and tests and trust. Always ask for one until you’ve settled all health and procreation issues.

7. You had no protection against STD’s

   Never feel bad about demanding a man wear a condom.

8. NO

9. No, you should not feel bad. He should use a condom, period. Not finishing in you means nothing, there was a post on here the other day from a teenager who got his 16-year-old girlfriend pregnant that way.

   If he argues about it, kick him to the curb. It’s not negotiable.

10. He’s casually seeing you and other people and fucking them without protection as well so, In a way, you’re sleeping with all of them too.

11. No glove no love.

12. Definitely communicate how you’re feeling! If he’s not willing to wear a condom for your peace of mind, then he’s not the one you should be having sex with 🙂 you could also ask him to get an STI check so you could both be sure you’re safe together if unprotected

13. You should never feel bad about about standing up for yourself.

14. You shouldn’t feel bad about asking him to wear a condom. You also shouldn’t feel bad or get pissy if he chooses to just not have sex then.

15. Be blunt direct and rude. I’m gonna take you for every cent I legally can for child support so put the condom on or I’ll be wearing your winter coat.

16. im not even reading this…. you should never have to question someone using a condom

17. I only read the title… No you shouldn’t feel bad

18. For several decades using condoms has been **the default**, especially with a new sexual partner, independent of other birth control. You shouldn’t bother to have sex with a man that can’t bother to wrap up.

19. Why does it make you feel a bit anxious? What is the fear or anxiety you’re holding here?

    It is so beyond reasonable that I think it’s a bare minimum expectation we can have from any sex partner.

20. I am only 20, had sex with two men and still getting all itchy and mad when I just read something like this. You have to be confident that your used protection is suitable for your partner, and no, unprotected sex is never a thing that a man can demand. Biggest red flag ever, that he is willing to expose you to such risks, just to save some time, money or whatever.

21. Definitely your choice. Also his choice to not want to do it then.

22. Of course you shouldn’t feel bad! That is a perfectly reasonable thing to ask!

    I would not hook up with this guy again. You asked him to put it on and he never did. He obviously doesn’t take your boundaries seriously and that’s not okay. Go find someone who actually respects your boundaries to have sex with.

23. No. Condoms exist for a reason. You can get pregnant from precum which guys cannot control as much as we’d want to. And lets not forget std-s.
    Especially if its “casually seeing someone” you definitely should ask him to wear a condom.

24. Need to wear one no matter what

25. No. Never.