So I (23f) has a fourth date this weekend (23m) at his apartment. We ended up making out for a while and he gave me oral (which I had never experienced before). We didn’t do anything more than that. I also have health anxiety so since then I’ve been consistently worried about STIs. I’ve heard that the likelihood of getting one from oral is low but I could still use some encouragement. Am I overthinking it too much?
Edit: I talked to him about it and he does not have anything and appreciated me trusting him enough to have that conversation. Thanks to everyone who commented!
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Yes you are overthinking. Hope you relax and have some more fun. You can get tested in a few days .
Instead of worrying if you’re overthinking, why don’t you just suggest that you both get brand new STI testing? Yes, transmission risk is low but not impossible. I knew someone who got genital HSV-1 when a guy didn’t tell her that he had oral herpes before going down on her.
The only way to completely avoid risk is to live in a bubble and eat irradiated meals. Turn off the media, relax, and enjoy. If you really can’t get it out of your head, go get some tests for you and your partner. But I’m hoping you can relax and enjoy. Too much of sex is bound up in our monster-under-the-bed fears.
It’s usually not a bad idea for both parties to get tested before any sexual interaction happens especially if you have had multiple partners, it’s just a peace of mind thing. That being said you are probably fine and overthinking it. You can both still get tested to be sure.
Yes, you are.