All of a sudden I became friends with a former coworker. It’s only been a week of us knowing each other and she already calls me almost every night and we stay up talking for a very long time (Up until five in the morning sometimes, why, I can’t be that interesting!)
Anyways, the reason I quit my job in the first place is so I can have the free time I need to discover my passions as well as discover myself. I was feeling better than I ever have, but all of a sudden, this person is in my life.
I like this person, they’re great, really cool to talk to, all the good words. But I really want to do the whole self discovery/life path discovery thing more than be their friend. I want to be successful before I do any friendship things.
I can’t bring myself to get rid of them, unfortunately, I would feel too bad to do so.
I so desperately want a chance to reinvent myself and become someone I actually like, but this person is severely stressing me out and delaying my progress. They’re an obstruction.
It feels like I have no time once again even though I quit my job. The freedom I was looking forward too is already escaping me.
It would be so much simpler if we had never met. How I wish that were the case.
While I could ask them to slow their contact, I really want them gone for good, even though I really like them.
I beg for any input as to what to do. Should I get rid of them? If so, how?
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It sounds like you’re feeling overwhelmed and that your new friend is taking up more of your time and energy than you’re comfortable with. It’s important to remember that you have the right to set boundaries in your relationships, and that it’s okay to prioritize your own needs and goals.
One approach you could take is to have a direct and honest conversation with your friend about how you’re feeling. You can explain that you value their friendship, but that you need some space and time to focus on your own personal growth. You can ask if they would be willing to communicate less frequently or to give you some space, and see how they respond.
If your friend is understanding and respects your boundaries, that may be enough to help you manage the situation. However, if they continue to contact you frequently and it continues to be a source of stress for you, it may be necessary to take more drastic action, such as ending the friendship.
Regardless of what you decide to do, remember that you deserve to have time and space to focus on yourself and your own goals. It’s okay to prioritize your own well-being and to make decisions that are best for you.