Include your age (doesn’t have to be exact) on this one. I’m finding it’s bringing flakiness to a whole new level. Me included.
Not only is it addicting to just swipe and swipe and swipe, but the lack of face-to-face makes (atleast for me) it super easy to just be like, “eh, I’m not feeling it.”
But maybe that’s just me? I’ve always cares too much when it came to dating.
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Im 26 and I’ve been with this one guy for a little over 2 years now. He’s also 26. We matched on tinder, which I was surprised. Most of the people I had talked to up there just wanted to hook up, or things would be going good and they just stop texting, and so many unwanted pictures being sent to me which is a huge turn off.
I’m 25, found my partner of 3 years on the apps and we plan to get married, and will be engaged next year.
It can work, but I think you have to be in the right headspace for it. You have to be self assured and not be swiping out of desperation, and you should know what you want in a partner more or less and what you’re looking for (ex. serious, casual, etc). Additionally, you should have a good profile (good photos, quality prompts or bio).
I think having high standards and swiping sparingly + going into dates with low expectations for a relationship and just going to have fun and meet someone new helped.
26m
I think they’re good for people who want to weed out as many people as possible since meeting people face to face in public places are a challenge for some.
In my experience I have found some great women there. Haven’t dated any but that’s mostly on me. I do agree that flaking and terrible communication is prevalent which is another reason why I haven’t really dated anyone from a dating app yet.
Have buddies who met women on dating apps and they’re now in serious relationships so I have hope. I am addicted to swiping and also agree it makes it super easy to find people and then lose interest when someone else that seems more promising comes along which I know is not a healthy mindset.
Still though, regardless of dating and hooking up, I enjoy my time with the dates I do have and try my best to communicate how I feel and keep an open mind to anyone who matches with me and is interested. End of the day it’s a numbers game.
The point of the apps is not to deliver you a relationship. The point is to keep you swiping.
People who think apps will get them married are the same people who think the blackjack table will get them rich.
Ignore the anecdotes.
Yes you *can* find a relationship there.
No it is not likely.
Tinder’s internal stats find on average only 25% of users find relationships on the app. And believe it or not Tinder is one of the better ones.
It’s purposefully designed that way too. If they were efficient you’d find your person fast and then stop swiping. That means less ad and sub revenue for matchgroup. They don’t want that.
I’m 25F, I think dating apps are successful in that you’re able to meet lots of different kinds of people you might not have encountered otherwise. For me, who works from home currently this is helpful. But I know lots of men struggle more with getting matches. But like others have said, the point of them is not to get people into relationships and off the apps, and I think it has shifted the dating culture in some ways people don’t enjoy (flakiness, hookup culture, choice overload, etc.)
Found my now fiancé on bumble. I’m 29, he’s 39. The apps were weird and kinda exhausting. I met some great guys, ok guys, and seriously troubled guys along the way. But that’s the case in real life as well.
The apps are a tool to help you find people. It’s kinda like fishing. You gotta go to where the fish are and sometimes they bite and sometimes they don’t. There’s no guarantee. But there’s no fish in your backyard so you gotta go where they are if you want one.
As a woman, overall my experience on the apps was good. I got plenty of dates. I faced plenty of rejection as well, but the good thing was that there was always another dates lined up. I think it’s harder for guys because women tend to be very picky. My fiancé was feeling quite disheartened by his experience, but he didn’t give up and I’m glad he didn’t!
honetsly you get what you put into dating apps. if you’re just there to hook up you’ll find people to hook up with, if you’re just there for friends you’ll find friends etc etc.
i met my current gf of almost a year and a half on bumble and it’s going great ! the stigma that dating apps are a poison is so damaging for people who just want more options.
are you going to meet a bunch of people who aren’t looking for the same thing as you, yes, of course, but you’d find that with dating irl just as often.
i’d say give it a chance !
40. Dating apps and social media in general have huge impacts on the dating world.
It has given women the illusion of endless choice and men the illusion of low no choice.
As a woman u can literally have 100 matches on tinder everyday. The issue with that is most of the choices are there for sex only. Many are bad choices for long term relationships and marriage. The ones that would have been good choices often times get passed up because of a slight flaw. Not tall enough not good looking enough not enough money whatever. Because to the women there are 99 other guys there waiting of this guys isn’t perfect. So they don’t work on it to even see if this person would Truly work or not.
For men. most men get low to no matches. Who is going to match with an avg looking avg earning guy when mr tall dark handsome with a Lamborghini is on tinder? So they get the exact opposite in their head that there are not many women out there so what happens is the first girl that gives them any attention they jump head first into a relationship without looking that if this person would be a good gf and or wife.
Before all Thai social media stuff and tinder stuff most people would date who is around them. Mostly for work or school or social circles.
No man or woman is perfect obviously. But back then if someone met 80% of the possible decent bf gf requirements they would give those people a chance.
It is possible, but would keep expectations low. It takes time and effort to make a good profile and weed out those who don’t put in the effort or are not compatible with what you’re looking for. It’s a tool to meet new people that can be a potential partner and there are other ways to meet people outside those platforms.
Dating apps are convenient, easy, no hassle hookup machines. That I’ve met some of the worst sexual partners I’ve ever had lmao. I’m just a IRL dude tbh.
I was most recently on dating apps (on and off) between the ages of 30-33. I had a great few years there! I set expectations low and just had fun with it. I made some great friends who I still see regularly and I eventually ended up with an amazing partner. It certainly took a lot of time and I had to weed through plenty of duds… but that didn’t make it any less of an experience
It’s objectifying to a ridiculous degree. People see dating, relationships, and sex as something you get as a product after figuring out what brands you like. There’s not much of an attempt to cultivate relationships or your ability to engage in a relationship, since it’s so easy to move on to the next relationship and the means of meeting each other is so remarkably shallow and gamified.
I have more success on apps than in rl and idk why.. (guy here). But i want to meet some1 irl bcs these app stories never Last longer than 3-4 months