Bros so about a month back i got into a new relationship after few tough years, but realized i have Performance issue – can’t get maintain an erection for long enough. She’s been very supportive and understanding, but im looking for some informative tips that might help before the relationship turns sour
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Just go down, for as long as you can
When you fail enough times, you get use to it
Be there and understanding, let him know sex is more than just a hard cock. Get him to open up and tell you what the problem is. Don’t try to over focus or tell him it’s okay. Just listen to him and show him that you are there. Unfortunately he needs to work this out, just need to give him time.
Does his anxiety lead to PE or ED?
If it leads to ED, sometimes it helps to make the sex very spontaneous so he doesn’t get into his own head. After a few successful spontaneous events maybe he will get his confidence back.
You might also try having him have a drink or two before you start, just to relax.
For either pe or ed, you might consider having him try a low dose of cbd.
I haven’t really gotten over it. In fact, I’m a polar opposite when dealing with a hookup or a serious relationship. With a hookup, I’m completely good and confident leading into sex, but once it starts I’m filled with anxiety. In a serious relationship, I’m very anxious leading up to it to the point that I often avoid sex all together and basically it takes a lot to get passed that. But once we start, I’m very confident. I have no doubts about my performance itself and I know where the anxiety stems from. I’m working on it but it’s still a struggle.
Just keep at it. Im sure your issue is that ypu havent gotten completely comfortable with her yet and/or you still think of sex as something grander than it really is, giving yourself anxiety. I usually only get that sort of problem when im with someone new for the first few times. Once ive gotten comfortable with her and i know i actually really like her, the performance issues dwindle away entirely
I too had erectile dysfunction for a period of time.
Exercise is huge. Your blood and heart and all the shit that makes your dick work is directly tied to cardiovascular health.
Viagra is an Amazing drug, not only will it give you a stage 5 boner, but it also reinstalls your confidence.
Foreplay is huge, spend at least 10-20 mins in foreplay, if you’re not becoming aroused during fore play then it’s time to get reinventive
I’ll let you know when I do
Patience. Happens to us all at the start of a relationship. I find that having a drink but not too much helps. Also if it becomes a recurring problem using ED meds temporarily can boost your confidence and then you’d top using them. Careful abusing them as long term they can make you become reliant on them.
I stopped performing.
Both on account that age has begun to make it hard (ha!) and opportunities have died out where I live.