I have anxious attachment due to my previous relationship. My partner showered me with attention at the start, then reduced it and then only gave me small amounts and would often reject me which caused me to develop an anxious attachment.
I hate it as it doesn’t allow me to really enjoy new relationships.
How can I fix it?
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I’m not sure you can change it, but you can manage it. I just read the book “attached” it was very interesting and informative about attachment styles and how they work.
You working thru it in therapy?
I’m sorry you’re experiencing that. I recommend reading the book “Attached” to learn more about attachment styles. I too came from a relationship that caused me to develop an anxious attachment style and was recommend self help books, therapy, podcasts, etc. Ultimately, finding a partner with secure attachment style would also help as long as you learn from them & focus on becoming secure instead of anxious.. if that makes sense. I posted a similar question on here not too long ago.
How long ago did that relationship end?
I suggest you try to care for it now I dated my ex for3 years (15-18) off and on so nd so and now (19 broke off over a year and some ago for real) I still feel attached and I wholeheartedly say I love them even without contact
Make sure you focus on you for a while. Work out the things you enjoy and allow yourself to like them. You deserve love and happiness so give them to yourself. Sending love.