What would be the point of making yourself out to be more masculine than you really are?

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1. Lack of confidence

2. A perception of more respect. It is necessary to survive in some terrible environments.

3. Men who do that are Insecure and I think are more trying to prove something to themselves than others.

4. There is no point, you are who you are. Learn to be comfortable with who you are, if you are trying to change for other people, you’ll never be happy, there will always be someone who doesn’t like something about you.

5. Imagine a heavily religious community where “traditional values” are preached and anyone who deviates from them is ostracised or killed. Now imagine being a kid who might be interested in “traditionally feminine” things (or even trans).

   Masking your true self could save your life even if that life would be miserable as a result. That’s the reality for millions of kids (and adults) over the world.

   It’s not just about insecurity or shame.

6. Fake it until you make it – it’s a good rule in life. Act masculine and you will become masculine. Shoulders back, head up high, voice low and quiet.

7. Being more masculine tends to bring better relationships. Others tend to view you as more reliable (not gym bros masculine) and you can pass a higher standard for your children. Your boys will become good men (not thugs) and your daughters will know what to look for in a man when she’s of age, and less likely to be indoctrinated by feminist.

8. Normally to keep the crackheads at bay

9. Employment success. The real income inequality is between the masculine (male) or beautiful (female) and those that aren’t.

   Dating success. Women are drawn to more masculine men whether they say it or not.

   People in this thread are saying just be yourself. Go for it but a more masculine version of you has some benefits. That said, I am not a super masculine guy and I do just fine.

10. “I aM aN aLpHa MaLe!”

11. I’m not sure that would be possible, short of sexually molesting a grizzly bear or something.

12. I’m just gonna say it. No matter how much people try to insist otherwise, men and women alike (not ALWAYS, so don’t put words in my mouth) generally *do* respond well to men who display traditionally masculine traits.

    Do I think it SHOULD be like this? No. Do I think “less masculine” men SHOULD be treated with mockery and condescension? Of course not, but whether you want to admit it or not, it does happen. Whether YOU personally are guilty of this or not, it does happen, and enough men are aware of it to want to become more masculine, for better or for worse.

    Again, I don’t think it SHOULD be like that, but that’s how things are. If you personally don’t care about masculinity in men, then congratulations for not being a judgmental person, but that doesn’t magically undo or invalidate countless men’s experiences of being berated or mocked or treated with contempt over a perceived lack of masculinity, by men and women alike.

    Just keeping it real.

13. Posting on Reddit

14. Insecurity about having a “feminine” side.

    Just try to be a well rounded person.

15. > What would be the point of making yourself out to be more masculine than you really are?

    Under such a setting, a guy trying to be more masculine is 100% emulating some other man, with innate qualities he himself doesn’t have. The result is some rather mediocre swag. It’s pointless.

16. I did this as a child and as a teenager and as a young man – all of it for safety at first and then career success. Now those behaviours I used to force are just a part of me.

17. No idea. I went for soft boy and my now wife seemed to like it. She does also like when I dress like a lumber jack though….

18. Fake it till you make it, You crazy emasculated yanks!

19. Prolly to attract women, and it works