I am extremely sensitive to taste and smell. One thing I will NEVER do (at least, at my current state) is eat cum. I’d probably throw up. However, I really really want to get over hating giving blowjobs because my boyfriend really likes them (as he should). I feel so guilty because sometimes he will jokingly bring up that I haven’t given him a blowjob in a while and he’s not the type to express his feelings about something unless I ask so I think that that’s his way of saying to me he wants more. Which, is totally understandable to me. But unless he asks for them I can’t mentally bring myself to do it willingly and the only way I can do it without caring is if I’m pretty tipsy/drunk. I WANT to want it. I want it to turn me on like it turns him on to give me oral. I just don’t get why I can’t seem to enjoy it no matter what. Are there any tips to help?
Note: By the way, we’ve been together for 4 years and he’s my first ever sexual partner. We communicate a lot but I feel like finding other perspectives, especially from other women, would be better.
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I mean is his hygiene lacking even a bit? That could be a reason why you’re so hesitant but also if it’s just not your thing, it’s not so you should not feel guilty and you should really communicate that with him, because in the end it could just end up hurting your relationship. :/
If it’s the taste/smell that makes it such an unpleasant experience for you, I’d suggest a flavored lube that you can put on his dick before you suck it. Im also sensitive to smells/tastes and tried a BJ recently with watermelon “sex juice” and it was honestly like licking a lollipop. Plus, nothing says you HAVE to eat his cum. If you’re blowing him and he’s about to finish, pull out and aim towards your chest (or face if you’re comfortable with that) so you don’t have to deal with the taste/texture. Hope this helps!
I hated them as well but honestly I grew into liking it, I actually really enjoy giving head now. Ask him to also pleasure you while you are doing it. That’s something me and my partner did and it made it much more intimate and enjoyable. I’ve also had “restrictions” and swallowing cum was one of them, I absolutely wouldn’t do it but the more I began to like giving head the more “nastier” I’d want to get and that’s how when I’d willingly want to swallow. It’s a process.
Ask him to shower, then try it when he’s fresh out of the shower. Not a girl, but I’d try that.
Also, communication is key!
Edible lube…. Pina colada, Strawberries & cream, chocolate chip cookie
Just start with a blow job but don’t let him cum. Stop before he gets there
That’s not a thing. You’re going to make yourself vomit on him. Sexual stuff you don’t like is sexual stuff you just don’t do!
Another commenter mentioned doing it just after he’s showered, but you could try in the shower too? In my experience that just makes it taste like water.
Hello!
I am a ex blowjob hater. With my ex husband I couldn’t stand it. But he always made me feel guilty and we just didn’t have the correct chemistry for it. He would just expect a blow job, or try to like fucking barter and trade for a blow job.
Then I met one of my exs who loved blowjobs and I have adored them ever since. He would literally set the fucking scene. I then had the desire to please him, I was excited for it. I get fucking drenched every time now. I will sometimes beg my husband to let me blow him. It went from a chore, to wanting and desiring to please him. I think a lot of it is mentally if you desire to do it, setting the situation up in a way that turns you on. When I’m going to give my husband a blow job we aren’t just jumping right into giving head. There is still foreplay before hand.
I used to be absolutely repulsed by swallowing cum. Literally would gag at the thought. I can easily do it now, but if you can’t that is okay. I’m cool with him cumming wherever he wants, ypu can try to establish a plan or boundaries prior and not like immediately prior, but just a general “hey next time I give you a blow job I’m taking my shirt off and I want you to paint my tits” or give him a heads up on what you want.
I know you might have people that tell you if you don’t want to give him a blow job you don’t have to. Totally 100% true. But from what it sounds like you have more than enough desire and you want to do it, you’re just trying to learn how to enjoy it yourself. You can also try initating after his shower if that helps with the smell factor.
You can give blowjob without tasting it. When he is about to finish ask him (in advance) to finish elsewhere.