I [21M] just started a new relationship with R [19F] and we did some stuff here and there, I marked them up, I found it very arousing to participate in fantasies with them, and I find myself easily able to be myself around them. However, when I think about them and fantasize, I don’t find myself able to finish when thinking about them, but I was able to do so for other people in the past. I’m worried if its because im putting too much stress on myself, or if it’s because of the excessive amount of porn I watched as a kid, or if it’s because her body type is not what I usually go after. I always get turned on when thinking about them, and I always imagine them a certain way, but for some reason, I can’t get myself to climax, is it something that happens over time?
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I’m worried because I really like this girl and want to make sure the sex is great for when we do it later down the line, or if its anxiety and being lost in my thoughts
I think thinking of someone and having sex with someone is very different. In my case, i was barely ever able to have an orgasm just by thinking of my boyfriend, unless it’s in some kind of specific fantasy. It doesn’t mean sex wasn’t great though. IMO, masturbating and actual sex is very different simply because when you have sex with someone the pleasure is multiplied by so many stimuli (touch, warmth of the body, smell, talk, noise, etc). But when you masturbate to someone, it’s just…. thinking.. A lot of the actual pleasure is lost. So I don’t think you should worry about that.