i (f23) am going to a small gathering at my friend’s boyfriend’s house (me, them, another girl, another guy). we plan to chill and get high, and i’ve been made aware that there will be a strong sexual element to the night and i am free to join in if i am feeling it.
i have been in one orgy type situation years ago but that was unplanned and i had no time to worry about it. now, i am mainly stressing about whether i will feel comfortable and whether people will find me attractive. i’m not everyone’s cup of tea and i’ve had many nasty comments said about my appearence before. i’ve never met two of the people who are going and i’m scared they’ll be dissapointed or put off with how i look (my body i’m cool with, it’s mainly my face).
i’m also scared i’ll be an awkward bystander (lol) seeing as my friend will have her boyfriend, then the other girl and guy might couple up together.
i know i won’t be pressured into anything (my friend and her boyfriend are good people) and i’d like to go with the flow and hopefully have fun. i’m just nervous because my self esteem is quite low already. any advice appreciated.
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Two things:
1. If you’re uncomfortable of any situation, get yourself out of there asap.
2. Do you think people who’re doing orgy would care how your face look?
Personal Opinion: Dont degrade yourself by joining these gross events.
I would not be concerned about appearance. STD risk would be my concern personally.
Taking as read that everyone’s going to be clean and condoms will be in use.
Try to relax and go with the flow. You’ll likely have time to size the strangers up, so don’t be afraid to make your excuses and leave if they give you a bad vibe for any reason. You’re in control of where you are and what you do, so own it and remember it’s part of your armour.
But also remember, from a confidence perspective, that you were invited to be part of this, so that in itself is a statement of how attractive people find you. It’s very possible, even, that your friend and her boyfriend see it as a chance to get more intimate with you (depending, of course on your own inclinations and feeling about that).
I’d say go for it. but listen carefully to your instincts as the evening progresses.
Usually people who do orgy regularly don’t really care about others appearance as long as they’re not disgustingly dirty
Relax! It’ll be fun! Don’t worry about your looks being a primary concern when there’s an orgy happening. You were invited for a reason so just be cool and go with the flow.