First time posting. Have tried to follow all the guidelines but sorry if missed anything.
SO (m) and I (f) went through a long period of mismatched/low libidos, being busy and stressed etc where we just didn’t have sex. We seem to be coming out of it now though and both are keen to get back into having sex more regularly.
Does anyone have any tips of getting back into sex after a long dry spell? A couple details:
– I am very petite and quite tight (if that is a thing?). SO is well endowed and quite a lot bigger than me. After a long period without sex, I am a bit nervous about PiV again and he is nervous about hurting me.
– we’ve been working up to PiV by fooling around, oral etc. that has been really fun, but still find it difficult to take the jump to the next step.
– relationship is otherwise happy and healthy, w good communication inside and out the bedroom.
– we used to have sex regularly and happily before the dry spell, and I think a lot of it is just nerves going back into it.
Any tips would be appreciated! Sorry for mobile formatting. This is a throwaway account.
2 comments
Maybe try a dildo to prepare yourself? Like a step between. If it works try the real one with lots of lube and go very slow and gentle. It also works better when he got you off before, at least one time so you’re completely relaxed
Just take it really slow and steady. Try and work your way up to it.