I just want him to take control and to do things until he’s satisfied, but if I say something, he’ll start saying that it’s for me, etc. I hate that, because I want to know I’m doing good for him. He likes to hurt me and uses me roughly, but I want to drive his appetite for it even further. He’s just so sweet afterwards. How can I inspire him to go extra hard without asking for it?
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“harder” or “harder plz”
Ah, I love the easy ones. Go out for drinks or something, at a place where it’s not hard to talk to each other. Do this on a night where sex after is normal. He’ll be expecting the usual chit chat, but instead, here’s what you’re going to say.
You: hey, I really love how attentive you are and I feel great having you as a sexual partner. However, you are denying me the ability to give the same back to you. Furthermore, I DO like it a bit rough from time to time. So, as soon as we finish this drink we’re going back home and you are going to pound the shit out of me until I can’t walk.”
Once he manages to finish his drink and stuff his erection back in his pants, that should be that.
**”Harder Daddy!”,** should do the trick.
Talk about it before sex starts to come up. I mean like hours before. The same way you plan dinner ahead of time, except this is a little more intimate. Just be clear and mater of fact about it. It may seem awkward but it works.
Harder and holding his hips down while he’s jumping your brains out, if he knows you are enjoying the way he’s fucking you let him know. Sometimes saying harder and harder could be a downfall. You can also try spreading your legs at different angles to hit every wall inside you
Just be super freaky. Dress and act in a way that screams “I want you to do whatever you want”. Stick out your tongue. Deepthroat while making crazy eye contact. Just go full slut-for-him.
Simply explain it to him exactly as you typed it in your post.
Yes, you are “asking for it” by explaining it, but you do this outside of the bedroom.
My wife and I often have sex talks always outside of the bedroom so that we know what the person wants and desires when we are in the bedroom.
You can’t expect change without first communicating perspective and reasoning.
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i would just come up with a safeword, write it on a piece of paper, slip it into his pocket and tell him to memorize it. (sexy, whisper it into his ear).
tell him seductively that you want him to enjoy himself as much as he wants to. you can use the safeword if you need to