I (20 F), have never came in my life. Not with a partner or by myself. My current partner is absolutely wonderful and is constantly caring about how I am feeling and does everything he can to get me to the “Big O”. There have been times I think I’m close but I have nothing to compare it to so I don’t know. When I think I’m close my legs start shaking and my stomach and downstairs start warming up and feeling really really good. It feels as though I’m about to pop and then the feeling vanishes in thin air. I go from this really good feeling building up inside me to then feel nothing and I get distracted because I’m no longer focused on what he’s doing to me since the feeling left. Once I get to the point where the tension is gone I just don’t want to continue because it’s like I’m uninterested now.
I have never felt as good as he makes me feel and as we’re getting to know our bodies more it gets faster and easier for him to get to the point of me feeling the build up. Basically, I’m tired of not being able to cum and honestly it’s embarrassing. My bf is nothing but sweet and an angel about it. He even suggest going to a sex therapist and to use toys in the bedroom because he wants me to experience this probably more than I do. I just want to experience it especially with my boyfriend.
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I’m glad to hear your partner is so caring and supportive in helping you reach the Big O! Although it may be embarrassing, not reaching climax with a partner is common. You could try exploring different types of stimulation such as activities like erotic massages or teaching each other new techniques during intimacy. By taking some time outside of the bedroom to explore what’s pleasurable for each other, you can get more comfortable moving slowly towards orgasm when being intimate together. Additionally, sex toys are a great way to add variations in pleasure and discover how sensitive both your body and mind are What’s important is that you enjoy yourself by increasing pleasure for both of you.
I’m having the same problem.
Seriously.
Ive recently got a piercing and it’s healed and have been hard multiple times. I try to cum. But past 6 months. I cannot orgasm. I precum a little but not the full orgasm.
I’ve tried a lot of things except sexting or phone sex.
Have any advice for me? Can we help each other safely?
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You could try a Magic Wand or normal vibrator. I know women with this problem who almost never had an orgasm, one didn’t even know what an orgasm is. So for one of them I bought a vibrator (she is my ex GF). She came in 2 minutes. So I recommended vibrators to female friends of mine and it was mostly the same, they started using it everyday and had insane orgasms.
The Magic Wand is much better than a normal vibrator because it is much more powerful. You probably need some days or weeks to find out what you like but believe me, orgasm is *much* easier with such a thing. When that works, you can use it together with your BF, men love watching.
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You can try:
1 – Google “OMG Yes!” and can buy some online courses.
2 – Search for Kenneth Play on Pornhub and watch some instructional videos together.
3 – Focus on positions where 2 or more of your 3 pleasure centers (clitoris, g-spot and fornix) are being stimulated at the same time.
Have fun!