This question is less about how to act in ways that reflect a lessened self-focus (e.g., making sure not to dominate a conversation, asking questions, etc.), and more about your reflections on how you de-centre yourself and your concerns in your interactions with others and/or everyday thinking to be a more generous and empathetic person.
Hopefully that distinction isn’t total nonsense.
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I have to have a few days of not being around people, to be able to be around people. If I’m around people constantly , I tend to start not giving a.f . Let’s face it the world can be pretty shitty, and it’s mostly the people 🙃
I’ve gone the other way actually and my life has improved significantly.
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I’m an introvert so it’s rare for me to interact that much with someone I’m not comfortable with, so if I’m like talking too much is a good sign of my social skills improving with that person
It’s not nonsense! You actually explained that difference well. 🙂
For me, I just remind myself that I’m one of 8,000,000,000+ people. Only about 200 of those people know I even exist, and probably at least half of those are going to eventually _forget_ that I exist—if they haven’t already.
Each one of us is really just a very small, passing blip in humanity. Unless we make some great discovery or win some prestigious award or honor, or become infamous for some crime, we’re most likely not going down in history. No one but family and friends will remember us, and even then, how many generations will actually know or care about us? If people actually cared about or kept track of things like that, we wouldn’t need services like Ancestry or 23AndMe.
I realize this is very depressing, but it’s how I keep my perspective. Remembering just how small and ultimately insignificant my existence is in the grand scheme of things practically destroys any delusions of grandeur and self-centric attitudes that would otherwise creep in.