I (32F) and struggle to get over my bf (39M) having a more experienced or wilder history. I’m no saint, but he slips up and offers too much info sometimes and it troubles me fore days. He can tell when I’m acting differently and he’s so intuitive. I try to hide it knowing some of it is retroactive jealousy, but most of it is how it makes me view him. Like he hooked up with a porn star for a while and that just really grossed me out and then the recent discovery was that he fisted some woman before?!! I’m so repulsed by him I can’t really even kiss him and he can tell and I just love him so much I don’t know what to do. I can’t unhear it. I can’t bring it up because he will not open up to me.
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>I’m so repulsed by him
Well, this is a YOU problem. I’m assuming everything he did was consensual. So long as you’re clear about your boundaries and what you want in bed, it should be fine.
So, in which context does he bring that up? Are you asking him for specifics? Because if you aren’t he should really know better than to share details
I agree with all the other redditors that you first need to stop talking about the sexual history in general with this person.
The second thing is that you need to talk to someone about it because your current behavior is a sign of some form of anxiety or insecurity regarding the person.
The last thing is that everyone has a sexual past (usually), and you cannot hold that against them (unless it’s non-consensual, of course, that’s a completely different subject).
Edit: left out some context accidentally
Are you sure it was a slip up or was he hinting at what he likes? This is oddly suspicious