Usually when I’m at the club I have no problems talking to girls. I am very straight forward, I tap them on the shoulder and tell them something alike “I know this is awkward but I saw you and (I kinda like you)/( I thought you’re pretty).” Then they’re like :”Oh, thank you … “. At this point some girls tell me they have a boyfriend or no interest and thats fine. Others jump in and we get into a conversation and start talking about anything. Now some don’t know what to say after I tell them they’re pretty, which is understandable. In order to keep this going and make her feel comfortable I need to say something again but the problem is I don’t know what to say besides to start a npc conversation like where you from, what you do for a living etc. Yesterday this hit me really hard when I approached a girl at the club told her I liked her and as usual she didnt know what to say. I asked her:”You got nothing to say ?” She:”No (laughing).” Me:”U want me to say something?” She:”Yes, but if you don’t say something interesting, I’ll leave.”
She left. So can you help me out with some tips on what to say after I tell her that I like her? What works for you? Ultimate goal is either to get to know her and maybe go on furthe dates and maybe make out for the night or if she’s horny to have a one night stand and see where things go on from there.
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First thing bro when you approach chicks never tell them they look good. They already know that that’s the reason your approaching them so you don’t have to say it.
Secondly if your going to approach girls at the club you have to wait for choosing signals. You will not get far by cold approaching.
Follow up with what color are your nipples? If she responds, thats a keeper. If she doesn’t find you interesting, then she isn’t looking for a real man.
You can prove that your not afraid of talking sexually but make sure to change the subject, don’t talk about sex until she is a lot More comfortable after that.
Cold approaching is never ideal. And telling her she’s beautiful right away is cringe.
But….You didn’t do too bad with the girl who told you she had nothing to say. You got her to laugh. Follow that up with “I’m terrible at this, aren’t I ?” She’ll laugh again and probably agree. “Well I should at least buy you a drink as my penance.” Your only shot is to keep her laughing and get her attention long enough to maybe get her on the dance floor later. Tough way to go.
Ok so 2 things. 1st I wouldn’t lead off with the “I think your hot” bit. Mix it into the conversation you’re having. If you’re going to just say “I think you’re hot”, don’t let that be the 1st thing that comes out of your mouth.
Now for following up. Why are you telling them they’re hot? What’s the whole point of having this conversation wtih her? Just to say she’s hot?
Also kudos to you for doing that much because most men can’t unless their extremely intoxicated.