I (22f) opened to my bf (24m) that I thought of a “what if” scenario in my head when the time our relationship was at our lowest point and all that was happening was so hard for us. i told him that i thought “what if i have never forgiven you on a ‘specific event” that had happened between us back in older days and didn’t welcomed you wholeheartedly, will there be no traumas, crying toxicity and will i be happy?”. we’re okay now (recently) until i opened this up to him bc last night i was just having some deep thoughts about our relationship and how we’ve come this far yet i feel like there’s still lacking and i remembered i had thought of this ‘what if’ back then. now he goes all ballistic and goes , “I’ll give it to you now, i hope you find your answers” ” i didn’t knew you were full of regrets up until now” “have you heard me said something like this the last time we we’re not okay?” (this was a time i messed up something that tore us apart) and now he’s all angry, cold untouchable and resorting to a break up. I still don’t know what to do or say bc he already slept without us fixing the issue.
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**What was the ‘specific event’?**
some dude on the internet, although name and some infos were true however he used a different face and some fragment/details of the other dude’s life
I’m not really sure what you expected bringing up something that is clearly a touchy subject. From how you phrased it, it does seem to be in a negative light, it doesn’t seem like you mentioned it in a happy way, so it’s not illogical to take as you talking about it in a regretful manner. Bringing up something like that in that way of course is only gonna cause issues, did he overreact? Very likely. Not everyone wants to fix every issue immediately, sometimes you just want to sleep on things
There’s too much baggage here. You’re both having second thoughts, it’s ok for a relationship to end. People think they need to cling on for dear life and letting go of a bad relationship is a bad thing. It’s not, and sometimes it turns out to be the best thing.
Sounds like some unforgivable stuff happened between you two. Time to heal and move on
This entire post is far too vague for anyone to really give much advice.
Something happened and you forgave him but now you’re wondering you shouldn’t have forgiven him and now he’s mad?
If you’re still hung up on this thing that happened you clearly haven’t really forgiven him for it. Either way it sounds like what happened is that you just decided that whatever it was wasn’t worth breaking up over but you never really worked through it or solved the issue.
Forgiving someone and just deciding not to fight about something anymore are not the same thing.
You asked him if you would’ve been happier if you had not stayed with him? Is that what I read or I am mistaken? Or was it just the forgiveness?
You’re either all-in or all-out. He’s right to drop you.