I’m seeing a girl and she is quite shy and inexperienced and I’m kinda shy too. We are comfortable into each other and take things slowly. The thing is, my ex for instance took action into her own hands like 40-60% of the time and started being frisky and initiating sex.
But the girl I’m seeing right now is reserved and doesn’t pull (almost) any moves on me despite being in a good mood. She is not visibly uncomfortable with the situation.
The “problem” is, that I kinda forgot how to get girls going or even pull anything myself. We kiss and cuddle but idk when or how to take things further with her being alright with it.
I’m even afraid to touch her boobs while not even naked. I think I should ask her if is ok with her how I’m touching her or if she was ok with taking off clothes. But I’m not even sure how to make this not awkward.
As I mentioned she is inexperienced and I don’t expect her to dare and do something she never did but how can I make her feel good and ready to take things further?
Also how to overcome my own shyness in regards to sex? I think communication is key but I am at loss for words
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Slip your hand into her shirt. On her belly. See how she reacts. You could ask her if she wants a massage.
The great thing about intimacy and sex is you don’t need words to communicate. I would up your seduction game. Women have many, many erogenous zones; if you kiss her in areas she doesn’t expect you will really turn her on while also relaxing her. Here are some areas:
Scalp: run your hands through her hair, lightly touch and massage her scalp,
Ears and neck: follow up with kissing her around her ears, back of her ears, around her neck. Most women find being kissed on the neck super sexy.
Hands and wrists; surprisingly there are a lot of nerve endings that fire up when we kiss and caress the hands and wrists,
You then move onto her stomach, back and other parts of her body.
You will drive her wild, if, other than diving straight for the breasts or genitals you brush by them with your hands or lips for a while, or get very close. When she is not sure if you are going to touch her there it starts to get her very excited. Teasing is a massive turn on for women. If you are good at seduction she will follow your lead as you are providing so much pleasure you won’t need to keep asking her.
If you just see every part of a woman’s body as available to love, touch, caress and kiss rather than just treat her as if her only erogenous zones are her breasts and genitals you will be a much hotter lover and you will drive her crazy. Then you may find she loses a lot of her shyness.