Does everyone get awkward at times/ is there anything wrong with being an awkward person or should you beat yourself up bc of that?

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1. Beating yourself up is not a healthy way to deal with stuff in general.
   Being awkward is not a character flaw. Sometimes when I leave after social interactions I have to slow my mind down because it wants to rehearse every weird thing I did or said. I try to take deep breaths and give myself some compassion. I know that’s easier said than done.

   It’s ok to be awkward sometimes. People who tell you otherwise are arrogant, imo.

2. No need to beat yourself up. Also nothing wrong with working on your weak areas (gradually) so you can get more socially comfortable.

3. Beating yourself up actually reduces your confidence and ability to socialize effectively. We all say dumb stuff, we’re all awkward at times—those things make you relatable because everyone experiences those things. You can even make a joke about being awkward and the other person will appreciate it.

   Ask yourself this: what social skill does beating yourself up improve?
   Answer: none at all, it actual cripples your confidence.
   What works: forgiving yourself for being awkward because you’re doing well by just trying and you’ll improve the more you try.