Is there a non creepy way to approach someone in the gym?

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1. Yeah based on everything I’ve read, most women do not prefer it…at all. However, if you’re going to do it regardless, maybe start off with a question and keep the convo light and simple. Slowly build from there if you bump into her at the gym often.

2. Asking for help. With anything. Women have maternal instincts that come out when someone asks for help and it also lowers down their defenses and makes them more receptive

3. Unless she is completely inviting you in and making it super obvious she wants you to approach , leave the gym to just being a gym

4. no

5. “… how would you know?”
   Woman are telling you that it makes them uncomfortable?

6. Generally a no-go, but if you constantly see someone at a gym you like, start by just being friendly and making general small-talk, if the other person seems receptive than you can build that relationship over time. But don’t go laying it on thick at the gym lol.

7. Nope- it is always creepy.

   Never approach someone about dating/hooking up whilst inside the gym or in the car park.

8. The people I know who met at a gym became gym buddies over time and then confessed feelings. Trying to become friends with no explanation of friendship, much less more wouldn’t be creepy.

   This is totally non romantic but I saw my neighbor struggling to move. I was introduced by their landlord as I just happened to walk by before they moved in. I offered her my hand truck an a cart. Then the next weekend, I was on my balcony seeing them struggle again. I don’t even know if they could have gotten this dresser in their unit.

   My motives were not completely unselfish, I lost a good friend (their landlord) in him moving so I wanted to at least have people I bump into and say hi, they are so nice to me and we are slowly becoming friends. It took me 40 minutes of my time.

   Point: I think you can find that same kind of in anywhere if you set your expectations low and would not be mad if they don’t see your efforts as important. That also means, don’t be manipulative and try to force anything on the situation. Be patient and let it takes its course. Even if it starts with single sentence exchanges.

9. So you’ve already acknowledged that approaching women at the gym is creepy. Why not approach women somewhere else?

10. Nope

11. Say something friendly between sets. Don’t do it as an attempt to get her number. Just something friendly or funny that fits the situation. Be quick and let her get back to her workout. Then the next time you’re at the gym together, wave and maybe do the same thing. The gym is cool because you have time, so use that to your advantage. Show that you are a chill and friendly dude. It’s only creepy if you approach the first time just to get her number

12. Tbh there’s some tells. I’m never certain so I typically don’t even attempt. I prefer not to “shit where I eat” per say. But I know this one girl who had a thing for me that actually mentioned it. I know another regular at the gym ended up having a pretty flirty workout with her and then they left together. So idk man, but if it isn’t overly obvious I would avoid it. You can try but if they turn you down then probably don’t even look in their general direction ever again lmao.