Got cheated on for a whole year and throughout the pregnancy. I found out my gf was sleeping with her coworker and she just kept saying it was a mistake(it was a choice) and she loved me and blah blah blah just to still be sleeping with him after that. I don’t know if my son is mine and have petitioned for paternity testing and custody. Spent my entire life wanting a family and to have our first Christmas together and this is what I got. I’m not into the Christmas spirit this year, and I’m super jealous of all the couples and families. Not even sure if I believe in love anymore and i just want to disappear for the holiday season(not possible).
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I hope it’s not yours so that you aren’t tied to this gross woman for the rest of your life 😔
You gotta realise how much she can destroy your life if the child is yours and you wanna split
First talk things out, then paternity test
I think, I’m just a 17 y/o kid with no experience with this kind of situation tho
You seem to be handling it right – seeking a paternity test and ending the relationship.
It sounds like you are going through a difficult and painful situation right now. Being cheated on is one of the most hurtful and traumatic experiences that a person can go through, and it’s understandable that you are feeling hurt, angry, and confused. It’s also understandable that you are feeling jealous of other couples and families, and that you are struggling to find joy in the holiday season.
It’s important to remember that you are not alone and that there are people who care about you and want to help. It can be helpful to reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for support. They can provide you with a listening ear, emotional support, and practical advice.
It’s also important to take care of yourself and to prioritize your well-being. This might mean setting boundaries with your ex-girlfriend and her coworker, or it might mean seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor. It’s okay to feel sad and hurt, but it’s also important to take steps to move forward and to start rebuilding your life.
It’s natural to question your beliefs about love and relationships after being cheated on, but it’s important to remember that not all relationships are the same. It’s possible to find love and happiness with someone who is trustworthy and loyal. It may take time and effort to heal and move forward, but with support and self-care, you can find your way back to a happy and fulfilling life.
It’s okay to love that child but it might be best to get the test as soon as possible.
Besides paying for a child that is not yours for 18 years that will have nothing to do with you. Then forget you exist, while they look for their real father.
I only know from the bunch of step fathers I know that feel like used condoms.
I do know a few that love and respect them but ones that end up like uses condoms seems to be more prevalent.
#respectStepFathers
Is there an update
Good thing you know her excuses and cheating are bs
God your feelings are completely valid. Thats such a horrible experience. Please look into therapy for getting through this traumatic experience and take care of yourself
I’m so sorry this is happening. You’re making the right moves. It’s there someone you can stay with for a bit? Ideally where she won’t find you? A soft escape might still be possible if not a full one, you can still work and such but be AWAY??? Can you at least do a friend weekend to help feel connected to something else?
If that’s not your kid you better run and don’t look back. Your girl sounds like a real loser
The way I see it is you have 2 choices you can find out if the baby is yours or not if not then leave. Secondly you can find out and it won’t make a difference either way. Third you can just move on DNA doesn’t make a father how you treat the child does. Either you forgive and move on or you can’t and the baby of it us your co parent the little guy.
Try and find another person