My bf (18) wont stop lying to my face. We used to b in long distance but for a couple months been living together, hes visit his family for Christmas. Ive asked him to just b honest abt anything and he wont even after promising me multiple times. He thinks telling the truth will hurt me more n i explained that lying hurts more. Ive found out some stuff iver the past months, hes got pics of ppl n told me watched porn even after we agreed neither of us would. I give him plenty n id say I’m a good partner. I found out after we broke up n got back together that hed talk to another girl n said personal stuff abt me to his friend. After i cane out to him as a trans man n i want to transition he said hes fine w it n will treat me like one, except he was still doing stuff to me like to a woman. Nowadays he says he treats me like a man but not like a partner. Idk what to do cos ive told him straight multiple times that i need honesty n he makes me uncomfortable. Hes said that autism makes him lie constantly n watching porn is an addiction, which he never mentioned in the past. I dont think those r excuses n just more lies. I got a strong gut feeling thats never failed me n im not dumb. My trust for him has completely gone to 0 after breaking it multiple times. I dont wanna break up but any tips on how to trust him again?
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So many things wrong here, but let’s stick to your question.
He is a habitual liar. Either happily accept the fact the boy is a liar and you are staying with a liar and will continually be lied to by him, or break up.
Any tips for my bf how to b a good partner? From an outsiders perspective