I (21f) and my bf (22m) have been dating for about 3 years .We started becoming physical about a year and half ago.In the beginning the sex was painful and okay but I thought it might get better with time. I orgasm very rarely and it’s always from foreplay never by the actual act.
I absolutely adore him and don’t want to break up with him over this but it’s been frustrating (especially recently)every time we get together. it’s not that he doesn’t try.He does but it’s not making any difference and i don’t know how to say this to him.What can I do?
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Try figuring out what the issue is and nicely address it with him.
If you know what you like you just have to teach him. If you are in constant pain throughout penetration you might want to see a obgyn, perhaps it’s something li vaginismus
If you can’t communicate with him about this then he might not even know he’s under preforming so figure out what exactly gets you off and suggest he try that
Have you *ever* had comfortable, fulfilling sex with your boyfriend before? If so, it might be worth looking into why it was comfortable at that time. Was there more foreplay involved? Were you more aroused than usual? If so, why do you think you were more aroused at that time?
Another commenter suggested a physical issue, however I think it’s worth exploring psychological roadblocks first since they’re more prevalent. A **massive** part of sex is what’s going on in our heads in the moment, and our bodies usually respond accordingly with what we’re feeling.