Does not giving head break a relationship?

22 comments

1. Dealbreaker for sure

2. Hell yes!

3. Just totally depends on the guy

4. Depends on the person. My ex never wanted me to give him head. You’ll just have to ask

5. Wouldn’t be an issue for me

6. That’s not a question to which you can give a yes or no answer. It depends on the people and how much they value sex in general and oral sex in particular.

7. It’s something that guys enjoy. And for me I enjoy going down on women as well. And they enjoy me doing that. So if they aren’t willing to return the favor that makes them a selfish lover

8. It obviously depends on the person, but I think oral sex is so normal these days it’s like asking if, in a straight couple in which one person doesn’t want penetrative sex, if that would be a dealbreaker. I would put oral sex exactly in that same category.

   I’ve always like with Dan Savage, the sex columnist, had to say about this: “oral sex comes standard.”

9. I don’t give head due to SA in the past. He doesn’t care that I am not comfortable with it. He wants me to enjoy sex and not just do it for his pleasure

10. Very not lmao because I LOVE giving head and I LOVE being eaten out, but apparently I’m only able to be the giver 😂 Despite how I wish he’d eat me out, I’m not gonna leave him over that lmfao

11. I like going down on a woman and absolutely love receiving head. It’s a huge part of physical intimacy for me.

    Not being able to get a blowjob before sex or during 69 (one of my favourite positions) would be an absolute deal breaker for me.

12. It’d be a dealbreaker for me

13. My bf likes and so do I. If he didn’t like it we would not do it even tho I would miss it

14. Not an issue as long as I can go down on her

15. Personally it’s not exactly a deal breaker but I can see how it may cause issues long term specially if your partner does oral on you. I’ve never really cared for “reciprocation” and have been with women who didn’t exactly enjoy giving BJs but also never really had anyone who didn’t do it ever, but occasionally they did. So maybe long term it can cause issues if he’s going to feel unfulfilled and not reciprocated

16. Dealbreaker now, but wasn’t for the first 64 years of my life.

    Every BJ I had up to age 64 was unenthusiastic, short, and crappy. So I really didn’t care. Then, inexplicably, about 9 months ago my wife got enthusiastic and *really* good at it. I’m now in a new world and would never give that up. Especially because it’s not rare nowadays. There are so many great people in the world that I can’t imagine settling for one that would deny me that for the rest of my life. Unthinkable.

17. Even if i wouldn’t recieve it wouldn’t break relationship.. but if i couldn’t give then i would break it

18. I expect to get eaten out at least as often as he gets blown. Part of what makes us a romantic couple is the propensity to put each other’s junk in the other’s mouth.

    Certainly there are men out there who find oral unimportant… but I’d conservatively assume they want to stick the cock up my ass often to balance it out or something else will be a big part of his sexual appetite.

    Is there a guy out there who only wants vaginal sex all the time? I’m sure there’s a few… but I signed up to be his wife, I want to suck him off and do other stuff to keep thing’s exciting, for both of us.

19. Depends. I won’t expect it every time, but if I’m thinking about spending the rest of my life with a girl.. i don’t think i could live the rest of my lige without blowjobs.. like it’s just too good

20. Not necessarily. Neither my partner nor I would consider it dealbreakers, so we don’t do oral very often. It’s just not a priority item for us.

21. Not reciprocating oral was never the primary cause of a break up for me, but it certainly exacerbated just about every other problem.

    If you’re looking at marrying a man and you’re having to ask yourself if his self-esteem is low enough that your refusal to ever blow him despite him wanting it will become an issue at some point down the road, then it’s probably time to go back to the drawing board.

    If you looking at marrying a man and don’t even know his views on or level of desire for oral sex, you’ve got a lot of things to learn about him still.

22. It depends on the guy. My ex-husband wouldn’t even let me attempt to give him head because he had a huge phobia of teeth being in that area (triggered by a dog attack). So it’s not a dealbreaker for everyone, but I think I’d be very sad about it if my partner never went down on me tbh