so, i have this friend of mine, we started talking a lot on chat, literally almost all of the time of the day, we talked all kinds of stuff
we got to a point that im her best friend (probably male) she mentioned me in her ig bio and i got a hight light too!!
but… now we are so far appart as friendship, she say that she wants me and im still her best friend, but she just take a tooon of time to answer my messages, i allways said “maybe she is just busy” but then i see activities after she left me on delivered, like stories likes of pots or stuff like that
idk maybe im overthinking, she has another friend, she spend more time with him, but that is mostly because i can’t join her in school because of my other friends and stuff like that, the point is that that doesn’t bother me at all, actually im happy that she is happy too
but the point is that idk i got the feeling like she actually doesn’t want me anymore for any reason, but if that the case why the hell she is still saying she wants me and that im her best friend and stuff like that? is she manipulating me??
probably i did something wrong i know that but why she doesn’t tells me that???
i already talked about that with her but her answer is that she is pretty bad showing affection, but mateeee she is literally cuddling with her other friend in front of me like waaaaaaaaa she says she doesn’t do that with me because it can make me uncomfortable but damn… damn when im with them i feel like the 3rd wheel idk
am i jealous? am i overthinking?, am i doing something really really bad?
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Remember people make time and effort for whom they want to make time and effort for. You will keep overthinking this as long as you continue to sit around, do nothing, and keep excessively waiting on them. Ask yourself something. Why is it these friends of yours are clearly doing other things besides responding to you, but you can’t do the same ? You really need to start getting busy in your life and start talking to other people. Never make one person or few people your only social option. It almost always doesn’t end well. If you make these friends your only social options, you run the risk of acting needy and clingy for their time and attention. They will lose respect for you and avoid you. Friendships are not codependent relationships. You should have other things going on in life or other people to talk to besides this one friend.
Also read this, it describes how you come off to people when you are constantly anxious and overthinking: https://www.reddit.com/r/socialskills/comments/we54zy/big_tip_to_reduce_your_social_anxiety_and_why/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf