So I (F21) am studying at university, and there is a guy in my class that I’m really interested in. He’s good-looking, has a cool style, I like how he talks about his projects, he’s very talented/draws really well and I heard that he has other cool hobbies and projects on the side. I wish I could get to know him better. The problem is, he is pretty reserved, and by that I mean that he doesn’t go out of his way to talk to people from the class. He only stays with his two friends and I very rarely see him talk to anyone else as he doesn’t seem interested to get to know people.
I myself am pretty shy so I’m having a hard time figuring out how to create a connection. We only have the same class once or twice a week and as I said he stays in a corner with his friends so I can’t casually talk to him like to everyone else. Plus since he seems to be fine not talking to people, I’m thinking that maybe he wouldn’t even want for me to approach him. Every time I’m trying to hype myself up to talk to him I just manage to awkwardly stand in his proximity because I just don’t know how I could randomly start a conversation out of nowhere without it being obvious and awkward.
Maybe there are some introverted/eeserved guys or anyone else here who could give me some insight and tips?
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Tell him you like his style. He will appreciate it. If he answers you, have a small talk. Just try it, maybe he struggles talking to other people or he is shy. You wouldn’t know. Maybe he likes you too. Or maybe not and that’s ok. You don’t lose anything.
I am shy too and I waited too many times for a girl to talk to me.
I’m introverted and oblivious to most flirty clues, but I’m probably not as reserved as you describe this guy, so your milage may vary.
That being said, I’d suggest to be direct and clear in your communication. Don’t beat around the bush. You can still call off things later if he misunderstands.
If it’s too awkward to talk to him directly (I get it!) then maybe ask one of his friends to pass along a note with your contact info and suggest to do something that he might like.
Don’t just give him your number because then he’ll probably feel pressured to carry your first ever conversation which would be kinda odd anyway because you’re the one interested.
Hope that gave you some clues.