So I have been for the past couple months alone in life because that’s what i wanted, and l’m happy with that.
Basically trying to figure myself out and work on myself (i do go out from time to time to see people)
So after all those time with myself I’ve figured out that I do wanted to be in a relationship but not for love or neither for sex, i just want to grow with someone who’s like me, like a couple but not too much?
And I’m wondering if that makes any sense.
I’m a really ambitious person and the majority of people around me are not and so are the girls that I know.
Everyone seems ambitions-less and only go to school only to go (don’t even know what they want to do and failing) and drink every time they get a chance to.
But I want more! I want a life with someone who put me in second if that wath it takes, i want someone who crave to achieve their goals.
Also I feel like love and having cute little couple moment are just stoppers to whatever our life would be.
So, I’m not really sure about wtf l’m saying right now still trying to understand all this myself
(20M) btw
TL;DR: i want a relationship with someone who is has ambitious as me and don’t do it for any sentimental reason (ig?)
4 comments
If you don’t want to have a girlfriend you don’t have to. You don’t have to try and twist relationships into definition knots. Just be friends. You are describing friendship.
It sounds like you want a room mate/good friend.
Find a self improvement group and make connections there. Sorry my English is not the best so I don’t know the words for these types of groups. I mean groups like volunteergroups, physical fitness groups, take on courses that interest you. Honestly it sounds more like you crave a mentor then a friend or relationship.
Also this “Also I feel like love and having cute little couple moment are just stoppers to whatever your life would be”, what does that even mean? You don’t have to be in a romantic relationship if you don’t want to. Honestly doesn’t seem like you’re at a point in life to be ready for that anyway.
You crave a very conditional type of connection. You want to be pushed to betterment, and you want to help that person too. Cool. But that’s why I think a mentor or a group like I mentioned are better fits.
You sound like you want friends, not a romantic/sexual relationship. That’s perfectly fine – just be single and pursue what is important to you.