We both have a lot of fun in bed but we still can’t find sexual positions that are compatible with our height difference. The only one that has perfectly worked for us is doggy. We can’t do cowgirl, 69, face-off, even missionary is hard for us since he has to bend a lot. Are there any good positions for a couple with such height gap? We’d like to start easy.
Edit: A lot of people are saying I shouldn’t be having trouble with cowgirl at all. I want to clarify why it’s a problem. My boyfriend has a wider torso, compared to that my legs are short. What I have been doing so far is sitting on top of him with my legs on either side, like it’s normally done. But because of the disproportions, my knees don’t touch the bed which is why I can’t lift myself up. A lot of people recommended that I squat rather than sit normally so I’ve tried that, it’s not the most comfortable position but it might work so I’ll keep trying.
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Funny doggy is the one we find the hardest! I highly recommend a sex wedge. We can do all positions now thanks to that.
Have him slam you on his desk or dinner table and you can lock your legs around his neck.
Leverage furniture to bridge the height gap. 
If he’s big enough you can sit on his face and bend all the way over to reach for his schlong.
# Physics.
I don’t understand the missionary part and he has to bend… I mean are you sure you know how to do missionary? 🤣
What should happen is that your face should smash with his chest at worse but he would still be able to do a normal missionary position.
You need some sex furniture or a bunch of pillows.
I’m not visualizing how height difference would affect cowgirl at all. I would think most girl-on-top positions would be possible for you guys
Huh. As a 6’4″ man with a penchant for petite women, I’ve fucked and dated plenty of <5′ women and doggy was always the one we had the MOST issue with! Like, not trying to doubt you or anything, just interesting to me.
If he’s laying down, how are you having issue with cowgirl? If you’re straddling him, the height difference shouldn’t be an issue. Same with missionary. I’m just trying to picture it in my head (from a mechanical standpoint, not pervy).
I do feel you on the 69 thing. When the height difference is that much, your faces and bits don’t usually line up well at all.
He can carry you I guess ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Google sex pillows and find something to help get you in a better position.
Yeah, my wife and I have your measurements…. missionary and her on top are our typical go-to sadly. She always gives me shit for not wanting to do more spontaneous sex somewhere other than the bed. But she forgets that most positions don’t work for us. I *CANT* just bend her over the kitchen counter…
Don’t feel bad. My ex was 5’ 8” and struggled in certain positions. A vibrator helped and slow deep penetration to stimulate the cervix but not pound it helped. Although there’s still a point that was too deep.
It wouldn’t help you two kiss during sex (maybe?), but I would try the bow position if you haven’t already.
Try the lotus position
Spooning, especially if he holds you by the hips.
I’m 6’6″ wife is 5’1″. I do not understand these posts. Only positions difficult for us are standing ones. Literally any position on the bed no issues. Why the heck can’t you do cowgirl??? How does height affect that whatsoever?
Standing? As in he lifts you up and pounds you. Should be a good one.
My girl and I love when she is on her back at the edge of the bed and me standing. I can get soo deep and rough. It drives her crazy every time. Give that one a try and see if it works
look up piper perrie and jmac. they do this one scene together. dont know if thats how you want to do it but she is a little lady and he is a big dude if that helps.
Lotus position?
So this completely depends on the height of your bed as to whether it can work, but I love standing next to bed with my wife lying on the bed with her butt just hanging off the bed and her legs on my shoulders. Sadly, our bed is slightly too tall for us to do this now, but it used to be one of my favorites. It gave me a lot of control over depth and speed, and a fantastic view!
If you do the squatting cowgirl, have him help you by using his hands to lift you.
Also what’s wrong with missionary? Other than not being face to face?
Not sure what to call this but it works well for hubby and I, who have a similar height difference AND with postpartum issues.
He lays on his back. You lay on top of him, facing away, flat on top of him. Might need to maneuver a little for insertion. Should be good once he’s in. Then, either of you can set the pace.
How about spooning sex? I love that, works well with petite women even though I’m taller, and we can deeply kiss while she’s getting plowed, so hot, or if she doesn’t mind me being a bit dominant, I love holding both wrists in one hand and raising her arms above her head or out in front of her.
My partner (M) and I (F) have the same height difference. A wedge pillow under my hips helps with missionary, I really recommend that. But yes my face is smashed into his shoulder or chest, kissing without him bending over is not an option. You could also pull up your legs or put them on his shoulders or chest. That way you can at least look each other in the eye.
I understand how cowgirl could be difficult too! Could you put something under your knees to prop you up? Similar to the wedge pillow but only on the sides or something.
Other positions we enjoy where height is less of a problem (and especially if you like doggy) is variations of spooning. My favourite is where I bend forward at the hips. Or when I turn on my back and have my legs hanging over his hips, like your forming a big T together.