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Okay, so I (26 F) slept with this guy (28M) a few times and honestly he’s just not good in bed. I’ve tried making suggestions, positive affirmations and guidance during sex but basically it’s gotten me nowhere. Perhaps it’s a confidence thing, who’s to say. But seriously it’s like he has no sense of touch or female pleasure.
I think the guy is great and he’s really handsome, I’m not interested in perusing him romantically but I feel like as a friend, and for his future partners, he needs to work on his game.
Btw I understand maybe it’s inappropriate to tell him but I feel like it could be good solid life advice? Am I wrong?
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Here’s one way to think of it:
Imagine the roles were reversed…how would you want your partner to “break this to you”?
It could be disheartening but if you already tried making suggestions and talking to him what and how you like it and it’s still no better then tell him. Would you rather have bed sex?
Like how bad is it? No sense of female pleasure like he doesn’t even try to make you orgasm?
Bro, you suck in bed. I’ve tried to guide you to what would help, and what would give you better success with myself and other women.
Seriously girly, if you feel like he’s after his own nut, he’s not a conscientious lover. Go find a new toy.
There is a chance he won’t even receive the hint. Just stop sleeping with him. Ghost him. Or tell him over text it just isn’t working for you
Maybe break it off and say it’s due to being sexually incompatible? Then if he asks you to elaborate, you tell him you don’t feel like your pleasure and experience are priorities during sex.
Say “you are a great guy, and very handsome, but the oral stuff and your handiwork…..doesn’t match. Do you want to be a legendary lover? Because I’m not sure if anybody ever taught you the secrets of sex, and I really want to….so, what do you say? Are you down?”
I don’t think he’ll say no.
Hi dear may be this guy is a good boy. Sex is boring if like that. Me and my wife almost 9 yrs married. We do a lot of adventure and sexy thing while making love. Sounds interesting right? To be honest we do alot of exciting outdoor car fuck even in hospital and restaurant. Suddenly we want to try something new kaya kme nag explore dto. Yung feeling na to do point she wants me to fuck other woman in front of her. Because she know what is feels like. She want to see facial reactions and moaning. Grabe Yung pleasure na yan sa kanya ko mismo narinig. Fantasy nya yan e. Actually nandto kme s manila pabalik abroad the next day. Kaya gusto Sana namin magawa muna yung fantasy bago bumalik kme abroad.
Definitely not rong to tell him as a male I’d rather know then not tbh
If you want to try again, start from – “I really need a certain type of touch to feel sexual pleasure, and if we’re going to continue doing this it’s very important to me to show you how. And it’s very important to have you do these things to please me. Are you open to that?”