Im the dumper, we broke up 6 months ago. I reached out two weeks ago. I sent her a playlist of love songs that reminded me of her. She instantly told me she wishes she could be with me. Puppy eye emojies. I told her I want her back but only if its real. And she said she would love to be with me. I invited her out for drinks but she told me shes visiting family in her hometown for the holidays about 6 hours away. I asked her what her intentions were and she told me she wants to “create moments and memories with me”, wanted to know me on a deeper level and that she wanted to be together.

I replied by inviting her on a spontaneous weekend trip to an exotic beach in the Carribean we planned on going to when we were together. (I work for airlines so I get free flights). She told me “but how?”, “were 6 hours away”. And i told her that I would fly her out there from her airport and meet her in the destination’s airport. She has not replied and i sent this about 18 hours ago.

I cant tell if shes bread crumbing me, or maybe im being selfish and expecting her to drop her weekend plans spontaneously for an ex? But the thing is, that she literally just told me she wanted to create memories with me, and when i offered to take her on a trip, theres silence.

Not sure if being bread crumbed or if she just needs some time to figure it out before she texts me back. Just getting a bit impatient. Shes not asking me any questions to follow up on it, or seemed enthusiastic, just asked “how? were far away” was last i heard from her.

I want to follow up on it but dont want to double text… waiting for her reply…. but now its occuring to me that im being bread crumbed and she didnt actually want to create memories and want me back. Maybe im being selfish and give her more time to think this through before responding?

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  1. I mean who knows.

    But it’s reasonable for her to be unsure about a spontaneous paid weekend trip out of country.

    its last second

    your an ex

    She probably is figuring out if its feasible and if she wants to. These kind of trips generally imply sexual relations/something possibly jumping back in deeper than she is openly ready to.

    Like it’s awesome the opportunity don’t get me wrong. But for someone with conflicted feelings living far away to make a out of country last min plan with someone who dumped them might take some thinking. Even if you have feelings for them.

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