I was sucking a guy’s dick and he told me to sit on his face while he jerks off instead.

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1. Possibly (if that bothers you look up tutorials, I am dead serious), but I also know some guys enjoy giving a *lot* and don’t want to be receiving all the time.

   Source – myself.

2. Sounds more like this guy knows what he likes than he wanted you to stop because it was bad. That’s something you have to ask him! I’m inclined to believe it had more to do with his preferences than the quality of your performance.

3. My partner can only cum when he’s also giving pleasure, so he usually plays with me while I go down on him – sounds like you’ve got one similar, and trust me, it doesn’t get much better than that!

4. “guys are usually focused on their own pleasure” – poor generalization right there. That just tells me you have been with the wrong guys before.

5. My wife and I do this sometimes. Her BJs are awesome, but then I get really hungry for her pussy. Plus she enjoys the visual knowing how much it turns me on, which ramps her up even more, a wonderful vicious cycle!

   Lots of men, and women, enjoy giving pleasure. Never settle for a selfish lover.

6. You need to ask him to know how good your BJ technique is. Are you not already doing that?

   The only thing you can know for sure from the information in your post is that the combination of pleasure he gets from jacking himself off and getting you off via eating your pussy exceeds what he gets from the BJ alone.

   I’m a giver, and primarily get pleasure from giving my partner pleasure. I enjoy a good BJ, but frankly, I never had one until I was 64 years old. Every other partner was terrible at them. And they were terrible because they didn’t really want to do it, and they sure as hell didn’t want to improve their technique.

   So, lacking a crystal ball, you need to ask him.

7. I wouldn’t let it be a shot to your ego. A lot of guys are focused only on their pleasure, but not all. Some guys can take a while getting there, if at all from oral, even if it feels great. If the person is a “giver” then it can still be good, but they may feel awkward actually focusing on their own pleasure. A giver can find it easier to get pleasure, while giving pleasure, which very well may be the case here.

8. Not at all, that would be least of all possible explanations.

   BJ is not queen of all sex, no-alternative choice. Some don’t even want it for physical or emotional reasons. Even if it was, one would still want to switch to something else at some point. He also may want to reciprocate.

   To cover all bases, make sure to ask him if there is anything he’d like differently about bj.

9. My personal experience – I love to get blowjobs, but I REALLY LOVE when a girl sits on my face. If you look at my profile, you’ll see a girl blowing me, but you might notice we are in 69 because although she was REALLY good at sucking me off, I needed to have her in my face to get close to my own orgasm (since we were not going to have penetrative sex that day). Your guy may just LOVE your vagina.

   You can and should ask him to be honest about how he likes your blowjob technique. You could and maybe should just ask him this question the same way that you posed it to us (note: we are strangers on the internet – only HE can answer this for real). There is a good chance that he is so accustomed to masturbating that it is the only way he can cum. It’s not a reflection on you, and most likely as he gains experience being with you, that may change.

10. personally i love dat shit( ima munch)

11. Look in your DM’s

12. Honestly if this is his big kink, he was probably still only looking out for his own pleasure.

13. Maybe licking your pussy makes him feel closer to you. Maybe what he really wants is to fuck your pussy. Just spread your legs and let him show you how much you turn him on.