Hey guys. So I (M22) met this girl from hinge and last week I had her over to my apartment to hangout and watch tv. I made it clear to her before the date that I wasn’t trying to hook up w her on the first night, as I wanted to take things slow with her. She was very eager to meet me leading up to this night.
She came over, and we hit it off right away. She’s very social, which is a good balance between us two. We ended up in my bed, cuddling til like 3:00 in the morning before we both fell asleep. When we woke up, we both agreed to hangout before she’d have to go home in a week, but she had a lot of school work to do during this time also. She texted me later during this day to hangout again, but I already had plans.
Throughout the rest of the week, I was feeling pretty anxious to hang w here again, but it was becoming clear that she was super busy w school work. This made me start overthinking whether she still wanted to hang, or whether I was being too clingy w texting her, and how we would keep in touch during break. We didn’t end up seeing each other, but we’re still texting a few times per day.
I texted her the other day that she was “super cool, I guess” and that I wanted to “keep in touch” over break and how I “really wanted to see you again when you’re back in town”. She replied jokingly, and agreed.
My main concern is how to keep the flame alive until she’s back in three weeks. We’ve only met once, but we had a lot of fun together. I don’t wanna be too available for her when texting, but I also want her to realize how I’m still very much interested in her. I’m also a bit insecure of her talking to other guys in the meantime, even though I’m talking to other girls. This is super hypocritical of me, but she’s still the girl I’m most interested in by fat. I just hate to only be talking to one girl, and have my heart broken, and I know I shouldn’t expect anything different from her. But I guess I worry that I don’t mean as much to her as I might think.
Any advice would be appreciated!
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Start having phone calls instead. Dated a girl who went away for two weeks like that and we had a phone call every night pretty much. But if she doesn’t want to or texting is slow, don’t assume she doesn’t like you or whatever. After 1 date, you’re still total strangers, so give her space – she’ll appreciate it. Maybe have a call once a week, to catch up.
>I don’t mean as much to her as I might think.
At this stage, you mean absolutely nothing to her besides curiosity, and she shouldn’t mean anything to you either.